[HPFGU-Feedback] Re: Ad hominem attacks (was Possible Change to the Main List Settings)

[Amanda Geist]

Drive-by because a couple things in Tom's post caught my eye, and Tom's are
some of the few I make time to read these days. [Apologies, I don't have any
idea what happened to my in-line carets for quoted material, and I don't
have time to go in adding them.]

I am speaking as Amanda only and not in any official capacity. Contents may
settle in shipping. Your mileage may vary. Toy not shown to scale.

Tom:
Or about the way that at least three elves have abruptly cut off
personal communication with me without any attempt at explanation.
One of these elves actually *invited* me to throw some vitriol her
way. I write back in good faith, and get stone-cold silence in
response. Why do you think I'm starting to pipe up here after weeks
of silence?

(On that note, I'm still waiting for those responses, guys... you
know who you are.)

Amanda:
Oh, no, am I one of them? I've had some amazing real life difficulties
lately; we had an injury in November and a sudden resignation in December
and the team I work on is now at half-staff. It just seems to get worse and
worse. I've been working 11-hour days and doing laundry at 1 a.m.

I'm sorry if I'm one of your Bad Elves (Bad Geists? isn't that an
oxymoron?), I haven't been keeping up with *anything,* including my family.
Know any editors in the San Antonio area, anyone? I have a good lead on a
job...

Tom, laughing:
Iggy, my man, keep it up! You are well on your way to being invited
onto the Admin team... comments like this have a long history of
getting people in. And criticism has a long history of keeping
people off. Just ask some of them. ;-)

Amanda:
Nah. He'd lose his ability to speak freely; the admin team must always
consider the worry of being misrepresented or misunderstood, either by
accident or design. Whether we state in big clear terms: "just my personal
opinion, unofficial" or not. And I don't think the team's in the market just
now anyway.

Tom:
Rest assured, history demonstrates that the members of the Admin
team don't behave the same way on the support lists as it tries to
on the public ones, for starters. You'd probably be surprised at
some of the bombs that get levied behind the scenes. Really
surprised.

Amanda:
I'm sorry, I really can't resist when a superb writer makes a slip. It's
like catching a LOON in a canon mistake. Bombs aren't levied. Bombs are
lobbed (thrown). Taxes are levied.

Tom:
Not to mention that the author of post number #277 is actually *on*
the Admin team.

Amanda:
No she's not. That was Joywitch, she hasn't been on the admin team since
about July 2003.

Iggy:
You can criticize me, for example, on here if you wish, and I won't
have a problem with it... so long as you respect me, my views, and my
feelings even as you are disagreeing with me.

Tom:
Thanks for the permission; I'll be sure to do that. ;-)

Amanda:
I second that; I've taken worse on and offlist.

Sorry for lack of substance, but I'm in a hurry, I just wanted to apologize
if I were one of the people who you feel cut you off, and to clarify about
Joywitch. And be an editor, I can't help it, it's a curse.

~Amanda (who was *teasing* Tom, who *likes* Tom, who hopes Tom doesn't take
offense at the "levied" thing because honestly none was intended, my God,
I'm getting so goosy about these things)