Ad hominem attacks (was Possible Change to the Main List Settings)

[heiditandy]

Tom wrote, earlier this week:
> I write back in good faith, and get stone-cold silence in
> response. Why do you think I'm starting to pipe up here after weeks
> of silence?

I hope this won't be read as an ad hominem attack on Tom here, and 
if I had any expectation that he'd reply to me offlist, I would send 
it offlist. I admit that I'm posting here because he was 
nonresponsive to the emaisl I sent directly to him last fall. 

Tom, I find it a little disengenuous that you're complaining about 
nonresponsiveness here to the whole list when I sent you at least 
two emaisl back in the autumn - one in November and the other in 
either late October or early November - explaining some aspects of 
list history. You never replied to either of those emails, and at 
the time, I simply assumed you were too busy with other things; it 
happens. 

We are probably all guilty of not responding to emails at some time 
or another - I know I've done it myself, either because I had 
nothing else to say in response to something said by the person 
who'd emailed me, or because I didn't want to continue a fight, or 
because I knew the person wouldn't listen to me, or a myriad of 
other reasons. 

It happens. 

But please, don't act like you've never done it yourself by 
criticizing others who've done something that isn't far afield (if 
it's afield at all) from what you have done. 


Heidi