[HPFGU-OTChatter] Changing your looks

[Angela Boyko]

--- Amy Z <aiz24 at hotmail.com> wrote:
> Re: that thread on Hermione at the ball on HPfGU.
> 
> I like to look pretty as much as the next person,
> and I admit to a 
> weakness for clothes that is frankly a spiritual
> peril, but whenever I 
> hear someone say "I did X (dyed my hair, got a nose
> job, bought a new 
> wardrobe, wore makeup, etc.) for myself, not for
> anyone else," an 
> inner voice says "Oh, really?"  Appearance is almost
> entirely for 
> other people, and the pressure not to look a certain
> way comes from 
> the fact that the people around you don't like that
> kind of look.  If 
> people regularly told you you looked gorgeous
> without your changing a 
> thing about your looks, would you feel the
> inclination to? 

No need to don the asbestos as I present my point my
view. :-)

I have dyed my hair, more out of a need for me to feel
good about my appearance. Nobody ever said, "Angela,
your hair is mousy brown", or "Angela, you're 28 and
you have a grey hair!". I tried a temporary rinse for
red and loved how it looked on me.

But yes, people commented on the change and it made me
feel good about myself. I'm 35 and have grown to
accept the grey hairs, but I still like red hair on me
than brown. Livens up my appearance.

I have also had plastic surgery - but it was most
emphatically for myself. I had a breast reduction a
year ago, I went from overflowing a DD bra to snugly
fitting a B cup. The relief from neck and back pain is
hard to describe in words, but it was well worth it. I
actually grew an inch in height as my posture
improved. Over 7 pounds was taken off (in total, not
each!)

Now, you could surmise that I did it for others
because I was tired of being known for huge knockers,
but really, I like to think people like me for how
bright and funny I am, than my breasts. I have a lot
of online friends that have never seen a picture of
me. And only two people questioned my desire to
undergo the surgery - everyone else was supportive. 

So I did it for me. Should I get involved with a man
who has a problem with the surgery - well, I think
that's a good indication that he is not a man I would
not want to get intimate with if he can't accept my
reasons for doing it. I actually held off on it for
years knowing it could hamper my chances of
breastfeding - but when I found myself 33 years old
and still childless, I decided to go for it. I didn't
want to be 43, still in chronic pain, wishing I did it
years ago. Should the mythical Mr Right ever appear,
we can take turns bottle feeding. ;-)

Angela

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