Speaking of advice needed...

[Doreen Rich]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., Sheryll Townsend <s_ings at y...> wrote:
> I desperately need a bit myself. The question is: how
> do you ask someone if they're having an affair? 
> Sheryll, who suspects she doesn't want to know the
> answer (were she brave enough to ask the question)
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There is no tactful way to ask someone if they are having an affair.

I would be absolutely positive that it was MY business. I think the 
ONLY way it would be MY business is if it were MY husband having the 
affair. 

If it is anyone besides your mate, you really have no right to know, 
even if it is your best friend, your grown-up child, your parent, 
single OR married. If they want you to know, they will tell you. If 
they don't want you to know, they will not tell you.

If it IS your husband, I would be very careful. If he is having an 
affair and he tells you, the world as you know it, will be 
drastically and irreversibly changed. If he is NOT having an affair, 
and you ask him, he is going to have some problems with your 
suspicions and lack of trust.

Good luck, 
Doreen, who asked and lost...