Confessions of a Stepford wife (was Names)

[aichambaye at yahoo.com]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., "Rita Winston" <catlady at w...> wrote:
> --- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., Amanda Lewanski <editor at t...> wrote:
> 
> > By the way, I did what my mother did, what I thought everyone did,
> > and took my maiden name as my middle name--from Amanda Lee Peters
> > to Amanda Peters Lewanski. But Jan, un-Texan, had never heard of 
> > this convention. Is it a regionalism? Honest, everyone I know of 
> > that took their husband's name did this. I'm curious.
> 
> I was born and raised in Southern California and both my parents 
were 
> born and raised and married in New York, and my mother took my 
> father's surname and moved her maiden name to middle name, and I 
grew 
> up believing that that was what everyone did. 

Well: My friend went from Kelly Rae M. to Kelly M. M. (names have 
been initialed to protect her privacy), but she HATED her middle 
name. 

Me, I went from Heather A. Denton to Heather A. D. Mbaye. I don't 
hyphenate, I don't have two last names, I don't think mmy hubs' name 
was an imposition. 

I took his name because I wanted it, just as I kept the middle name 
my parents gave me and I took my maiden surname as a SECOND middle 
name. I didn't want to lose the connection to my beloved Daddy, who 
had passed away. the social security people didn't care what I did, I 
just told them to do it that way, so why not!

Heck - imposition? My Dad gave me his last name... why not my hubs? 
They both love(d) me. Now I have a cool academic name.

Heather M.