Good Thoughts Needed

Barb blpurdom at yahoo.com
Sun Nov 25 01:06:38 UTC 2001


My dear mother-in-law is in the hospital until Monday (hopefully not 
longer).  She had a fainting spell and then a small seizure (she is 
71).  All sorts of tests have been done on her heart and she's had a 
CAT scan and EEG.  Tomorrow she's getting an MRI done.  The doctor 
said there is scarring on her brain from previous seizures.  We were 
afraid that she might have had a stroke or heart attack, but that 
does not seem to be the case.  I'm going to call friends from church 
to see whether our kids can go to someone else's house after the 
service tomorrow so we can both go visit her in the hospital; so far 
only my husband has been able to go since they won't let kids under 
14 visit.  He's an only child and very badly affected by this; he 
and his mother are very close, and she and I are very good friends 
as well.

What really got me was that my husband asked me whether I still 
had "that stuff she gave you."  What he meant was this: A few years 
ago my mother-in-law gave me detailed written instructions about 
what should eventually occur at her memorial service.  She said she 
knew that I would keep my head about me since my husband and father-
in-law would very likely not.  (She's probably right about that.)  
Still, I'm very shaky now at the thought of possibly actually having 
to get that out...I can't bear the thought.  I am the luckiest woman 
in the world when it comes to my mother-in-law, and this is 
affecting me more than I can say to my husband, because I know he is 
already very, very distressed and anxious also for how his father is 
coping.

Thanks for letting me rant, and please keep us all in your thoughts.

--Barb






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