Crushes, A-ha, theories of attraction

[Tabouli]

> Joanne, who dislikes it intensely when people judge an actor unfairly 
because he did a wonderful *acting* job, and does happen to rather *like* Keanu Reeves.

I approve of Keanu Reeves on principle out of Fellow Eurasian Loyalty!  Nice looking guy (it's that hybrid vigour at work).  And yes, I do get saddened when actors get typecast into their first major role forever (though for some this could be because they really *are* their first major role... Hugh Grant in Four Weddings, perhaps?  Though I thought he did a surprisingly good villain in Bridget Jones' Diary, after being useless in non English-fop roles in every else I've seen him in).

>So-o...who *did* you all dote on as a teen and how do they compare on 
the Lockhart-embarrassment scale?<

*I've* already revealed my first major crush, and, shamelessly, on the main list as well!  Though I was a romantic little girl, and started having crushes very young (first was at five for a boy in my class who had lovely Draco-esque smooth silver blond hair).  After a brief and highly embarrassing George Michael episode at 12 (ARRRRGH!), I moved on to the glorious, the godlike...

Christian:
> I also recall that in the heyday of A-ha, I did 
find Paul Waktaar rather appealing - more so that Morten Harket, 
although I'd say that Mr. Harket has aged better than Mr. Waktaar.<

... Morten Harket!  Christian!!  A fellow fan of the glorious A-ha!  So overwhelmed by Morten was I that I even made an abortive attempt at teaching myself Norwegian.  Though from my memories of Morten photos at 40, I *didn't* think he'd aged all that well, despite his extreme beauty in his twenties.  Ahhh, that Take On Me video (swoons at the memory)... I really have to get a copy of it.

Now here's something I have debated hotly with various friends, most of whom disagree with me violently... what do you think it is that shapes people's tastes in this area?  I know all these misguided people who are convinced that people go for a partner who is physically similar to themselves.  Tripe, says Tabouli, who is small and dark and short-legged, and whose physical type (let's keep this at a superficial level here!) has always been tallish, lean, medium fair men (the very embarrassing George Michael episode aside), preferably with good hair and green eyes, given my hair fetish!  I suspect myself of eugenic motivations (ironically enough, given my rant on The Silver Metal Lover).  I am small and dark enough for two people, and the short and stumpy-legged curse from my father's side of the family definitely needs to be bred out of the line.  My paternal grandmother is four foot eight!  And my father is (dark and) five foot four and a half, which is an unfortunate legacy for any Caucasian man to bear.

Which brings me to the other theory I disagree with, which is that heterosexual people tend to favour a partner who physically resembles their opposite sex parent (don't know if the same applies to homosexual people re. the same-sex parent, but open to theories).  As is clear from the above, men who physically resemble my father are not my thing at all (though I have observed a worrying tendency towards men who psychologically resemble my father, which is far more unwise).

Another theory I have more sympathy with is that you continue to gravitate towards people who resemble the first lover you had with whom you were desperately in love.  Which would explain why my first boyfriend (tall, red-haired and green eyed), despite a lifelong professed preference for tall, strapping, Amazonian women, has married a dainty, five foot tall half Thai, half African-American woman.  I've also noticed a vague preference among red-heads for dark haired partners/eye candy... any thoughts from the redheads out there?

I do love the range of colouring among the Caucasian race!  It was very interesting to go to China and observe just how little a role colouring takes in describing a person (as it obviously wouldn't).  It's much more acceptable in China to refer to body shape and physical characteristics which would be considered taboo and rude in predominantly "white" countries (they would say "he's the one with the fat face, thick glasses and pimples on his chin"...)

Tabouli.


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