[HPFGU-OTChatter] Re: Going to Weddings In Drag

heidit at netbox.com heidit at netbox.com
Sun Mar 3 13:29:42 UTC 2002


Speaking of having wedding attendents of the opposite gender...

If you go to theknot.com and do a search for tandy, you'll find a 1997 article about my wedding, in which my husband and I discuss why all his attendents other than his best man were women, and why my brother was one of my attendents.

It should be understood that I had *no* problem with his choice of attendents. However, I thought that all but one would refuse to do it if he went through with his original plan to make them rent tuxes. One woman is very old fashioned and to require her to wear pants at a black tie event wouldve shocked her tremendously. Another two are size 14 and knows (knew) they'd be more comfortable in a dress. A third just would prefer the dress and jacket combination.

Ann, of course, was fine with the tux thing, looking like Marlene Deitrich as she does, but I didn't think it fair for him to require they all wear tuxes. I mean, I certainly wasn't going to make all my bridesmaids wear the same thing - they had to wear navy, it had to be long and it couldn't be strapless - that was all. So he finally conceded to ask them to wear black - dress with jacker or a tux - and ass was wonderful. Everyone was comfortable and had fun, and that's the most important thing on the weddi
ng day for one's attendents.

Heidi Tandy
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----Original Message----

From: "ssk7882" <skelkins at attbi.com>
Subject: [HPFGU-OTChatter] Re: Going to Weddings In Drag
Real-To:  "ssk7882" <skelkins at attbi.com>

Amy wrote:

> You could stick with drag and wear men's dress clothes!  Imagine
> how dashing you would look in black tie.  The possibilities are
> delicious:  cummerbund, tails, morning coat, pearl studs in your
> French cuffs . . .

A few years ago, I stood up for my friend at his wedding in full Best
Man regalia.  Cummerbund, studs, the works.  I looked, if I may say
so, rather distinguished -- if not, alas, in the least bit male.  (I
cannot pass.  For the reasons why, refer to the Complaints of the
Large-Breasted Women elsewhere on this list.)  I looked, in fact,
*much* better than I had at my own wedding, at which I had ceded to
social pressure and worn a <shudder> dress.  Spouse and I have both
agreed that if we had the wedding thing to do all over again, I'd be
married in a morning coat.

I did notice, however, that at my friend's wedding, the family of the
Bride cast me rather funny looks all the way through the ceremony.
They seemed to forgive me, though, when I not only failed to lose the
ring, but also gave a nice toast, made charming conversation with
them, and refrained from pulling any twisted practical jokes on the
newly-wedded couple as they departed the scene.

> If your dh is secure enough to attend family events with a
> crossdressing woman on his arm, and you're prepared to fend off
> drooling lesbians, go for it.

Fend off?

Oh.  Right.  Got married.  Doing the faithful thing.  Right.

The dh, BTW, *loves* me in drag.  He was the one who talked me into
getting one of those "just out of the closet" haircuts a few years
back, and he still occasionally makes noises about how much he liked
it that way.  (I let it all grow back.  I've had long hair my entire
life, and I...well, I just couldn't adapt to the short-hair thing,
I'm afraid.  I'm far too set in my ways.)

Okay.  You've convinced me.  The next time I have to play dress up,
I'm not even going to *bother* with the girl clothes.  People can
just deal.

-- Elkins




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