Size (was looks/personality/height/hair)

[Morrigan //Vicki//]

> -----Original Message-----
> From: catlady_de_los_angeles [mailto:catlady at wicca.net]
>
> > One described them as "bovine". You mean, white men *like* them
> > like that? EWW!
>
> My own experience is that white men DON'T, either.

I beg to differ.  I've known many white men who were very attracted to
larger breasts/butts/bodies.  That doesn't mean they're easy to find,
however; men who like large women often live in closets of their own making,
strongly influenced by society's extreme disapproval and prejudice.

> > What say ye? How have your looks affected your life (outside the
> > clothing domain)?
>
> I must be careful answering this question, or I may drift into a
> rant, and be WAY too personal... I often wonder if I would have grown
> up to be a different, more outgoing, less rebellious person if I
> hadn't been fat and ugly my whole life (and taunted for it in youth,
> of course). Maybe I wouldn't experience meeting new people and going
> to unfamiliar places (e.g. a shop that I haven't gone to before and
> sells something that I am not an expert in) so VERY frightening that
> it is a very unpleasant experience that I would rather avoid (I once
> read a description of the symptoms of Social Phobia, and that is me).
> If I weren't so eager to avoid people, would I have become a bookworm
> and a [more or less] good student and a computer pgmmer (maybe the
> only job where one can hide in cubicle and avoid going out on sales
> pitches)? If not, who would I be?

Well, I also grew up in a similiar manner.  I was a fat child, fat teenager,
and am still a fat adult.  I was horrifically shy until I went away to
college for undergrad; somehow, being on the radio as a DJ, knowing that
thousands of people listened to me daily, helped me get over a lot of the
shyness.  I still don't like large parties or outings - I tend to sit in a
corner and watch people, or talk to only one or two people.  I won't go up
and talk to people I don't know - WHY would they want to talk to ME?
Another thing that made a difference was finding the size acceptance
movement.  Knowing that there were thousands of other people who were going
through the same things I was, having the same problems, and working to find
solutions was truly amazing.  I even spent some time as the president of an
organization in California, during which time I participated in
demonstrations, gave speeches, and appeared on national and local TV.  As
you might guess, I am capable of going on and on about this subject, so I'll
shut up now. :)

> I'm between 5'2" and 5'3" and busty (as previously mentioned) and I
> can't remember the last time a man tried to look down my shirt....
> maybe because I don't stand up at bars, I insist on sitting. Barstool
> or booth.

I'm 5'10"!!  I'm taller than many men, and almost all women.  Clothes are
difficult enough to find when you're larger than normal - when you're so
much taller than normal, well...eurgh.

Oh, and on the hair thing - I'd had long hair, longer than mid-back, for
nearly 10 years.  Two months ago I decided I'd had enough.  I went to my
hairdresser - who was beyond delighted, I might add - and got it cut to
chin-length.  I LOVE IT!!  It looks so cute, and it's SO much easier to take
care of.  It might not be for everyone, but I'm so glad I did it.  Besides,
I can always grow it back if I need to. :)

Vicki, who is moving back to Chicago in 2 weeks and desperately needs to
pack and plan her road trip across the country...