Remus Lupin and Cross dressing at weddings (not one and the same)

[Elizabeth Sager]

Rita wrote: 
I fancy Remus because he is kind and competent and
responsible, and I want *him* to take care of *me* ...
when us readers listened in on him teaching the
third-year Gryffindors, being gentle and helpful with
Neville and supportive of Harry, I imagined someone
treating *me* with so much kindness, and immediately
was fallen... 

Amy replied:
<<Yup, that's me too. I do like that he needs some
looking-after himself, but this would be distinctly
*un*appealing were it not for the fact that he is
obviously a very strong, kind person who has done a
very good job of looking after himself all these
years. He could use the love of a good woman (guess
who wants to volunteer?) but he ain't the walking
wounded. I wonder why when women have a
caretaking/protective attitude toward their partners
it's called a maternal instinct, but when men have a
similar attitude it's not called a paternal instinct?
Men do have the desire to take care of people also. It
seems reasonable to me that most romantic partnerships
have this element to some degree, and that within
reasonable bounds (i.e. not condescending or
infantilizing) it is a very nice thing. We all need
looking-after from time to time. >>

I agree! Although at sixteen I am below legal (;D),
hes only fictional, right? I appreciated that he was
intelligent. Intelligent people, let alone intelligent
men, are in short supply in my area. And I may only be
a sophomore in high school, but I know what I want in
a man. Intelligent, responsible, kind, good with kids,
psychologically strong, and British (what, I can be
the teeniest bit shallow? ;) top this list. The
werewolf thing is pretty cool too. 

Once read some interesting fic about Remus getting a
good woman and stuffvery good series, maybe later..

<<Heidi and someone else (Mary Ann??) posted about
cross-dressing at weddings>>

I must admit, when I first saw the subject of the
thread, it made me think of other thingswell, I was
wrong. Hehe. 

I was at my cousins wedding last year, and they had
almost all girls as ushers. My younger cousin Cody was
the only male. Well, he was wearing the traditional
tux (looking very handsome, I might add ;) and the
girls were wearing tux shirts and jackets with black
skirts. It was very elegant and tasteful. 

Ta!
Liz


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