[HPFGU-OTChatter] offlist re: four-year-olds

[Saitaina]

Amy wrote-

<So tell me, am I crazy to want to have kids anyway?>

Your not crazy love.  I myself find that kids get on my nerves after a while but...they're not my kids.  I know my kids will drive me up the wall but I'll love them anyway and enjoy them.  I don't have to love someone else's nut jobs.

Just make sure you and your dh take care of the children equally (as much as you can) so that they don't wear one of you down more then the other.

Saitaina
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  From: lupinesque 
  To: HPFGU-OTChatter at yahoogroups.com 
  Sent: Wednesday, May 29, 2002 9:36 PM
  Subject: [HPFGU-OTChatter] offlist re: four-year-olds


  > Cindy (who finds that spending time with a four year old is 
  > equivalent to spending time with many adults)

  Yes, but, you see, I *avoid* those adults.  You can't avoid your kid 
  without being guilty of child neglect.

  I do worry about this sometimes.  I love kids of all ages and am 
  very good with them, but when I worked in day care, and then later as 
  an au pair for two wonderful, creative kids ages 4 and 6, I was SO 
  ready for adult conversation at the end of each day.  People say 
  children have no attention span, but they don't know what they're 
  talking about.  The four-year-old could happily play Truck Collision 
  for hours on end, and of course he wanted me to play with him (shucks, 
  I was hoping to sit nearby reading and saying "uh huh, nice" whenever 
  he said "BOOM!").  *I* was the one with the inadequate attention 
  span, or maybe it's just that I'm introverted and do get very drained 
  from being with people all day long.  My dh, who is likely to be the 
  primary caregiver if we have a baby, 'cause he's sick of his job and I 
  love mine, has no clue what he's in for.  I hope he tolerates monotony 
  better than I do, or is more creative about thinking up good games 
  (I'm pretty good at it, but kids go through stages where they just 
  want to play the same one ad monotonum).  He's even more introverted 
  than I am, which is saying something.
    
  Maybe this is what people are thinking when they say to stay-at-home 
  parents, "aren't you bored?"  Kids are fascinating, but I like to do a 
  wide variety of fascinating things each week--just one fascination 
  isn't enough <g>.  I learned a long time ago that I had zero capacity 
  for tolerating a boring job, which is why I'm in a job that's actually 
  about 8 jobs all mixed together.  When one part of it gets to be too 
  much, I can switch to doing a different one for a while.  And when 
  I've spent all morning visiting people, I can spend the afternoon 
  alone, thinking and reading and writing.

  So tell me, am I crazy to want to have kids anyway?

  Amy


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