Hurt-Comfort In Real Life

[cindysphynx]

Following up on our discussion on the main list . . . 

I was interested to see so many of the women folk admit that the 
attraction of Lupin/Sirius/Snape is this Hurt-Comfort idea.  

That got me wondering whether the people who find themselves 
reacting strongly to Hurt-Comfort in fiction wind up with Hurt-
Comfort men in real life.

Well, do you? Hmmmm?

Also, for those who are attracted to women, do you react to 
something else in fictional women characters, something different 
from Hurt-Comfort?  Is there a variant of Hurt-Comfort for female 
fictional characters?  

Cindy (who wound up with a Sensitive Man, but not the Hurt-Comfort 
variety)