Sibling rivalry

[werebearloony]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at yahoogroups.com, "dradamsapple" 
<dradamsapple at y...> wrote:
> HELP!!!!
> 
> Forgive the OT-ness of this post, but I'm at my wits end.
> The fighting between my three offspring has reached an all time 
> high.
<snip>
> Anna . . . (whose beginning to feel she needs a nice white jacket 
like 
> Lockhart's in the last scene of Cos, AFTER the credits 
rolled . . .)

~loony~

Well I'm the oldest of three, for reference there's me, loony, the 
middle sister, diva (her name for herself) and supe (pronounced soup-
y).  Although right now I'm not in a good place to be much help (I'm 
only sixteen) I can give my perspective.

I agree with Jen to give age appropriate privileges and 
responsibilities.  I remember the *months* I spent getting my Mom 
(who was a media rater, a.k.a. the person who puts the ratings on 
the movies) to let me see a PG-13 movie (I was twelve and a half 
before she let me) and then them turning around and supe (then) 
eight years old watch the *same* movie.  It stung.   I've also heard 
diva complaining that her chore is way harder than mine.  She does 
some of the pet stuff when the mood strikes her and I do all the 
food stuff (cooking and ordering groceries from the online 
service).  I don't see her point (this happens often) but I also was 
thirteen what feels like a *long* time ago.

About the fighting.  Let them have at it; just make sure it doesn't 
get too hurtful, physically or emotionally.  Both leave scars.  Also 
you may find that only one of your kids fights or one always starts 
the fights, or makes them more intense.  Then you should find a way 
to stop this one from fighting.  That could lead to a *big* dropoff 
in fighting.  For instance I never really fight with Supe, we get 
along great.  But I fight with diva and diva fights with Supe.  When 
Diva's gone the only 'fighting' is stuff like "Supe why did you hug 
me when you were covered in glitter glue!" and "loony won't drive me 
too my friend's house!"  That's just living in the same house, its 
little stuff that doesn't really hurt anyone.  There will be 
fighting unless you have kids who are either perfectly behaved or 
identical in personality.  Our fighting usually comes from our 
differences, which I think are good.

Hope that Helps

~~loony
"Prolongs Active Sirius." (What is this product and where do I get 
it?)