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[Tim Regan <timregan@microsoft.com>]

Hi All,

Queer as John <john at q...> wrote:
> Diana <dianasdolls at y...> said:
>
> > The truth is that some parents will not want their children to 
be exposed to
> > gay pairings, regardless if actual intercourse is or is not 
described, between
> > characters the children and the adults have grown to love in a 
image that
> > doesn't fit that scenario.  That doesn't make the parents 
homophobes.
> 
> Honestly, what other motivations could the parents have than 
homophobia? So
> far, nobody has been able to quote a *rational* explanation for 
this
> theoretical parental dislike. Again, if it is not a rational 
dislike, it is
> an irrational dislike. A phobia. Homophobia.

Let's get back to "actual intercourse". From a kid's perspective 
heterosexual and homosexual sex are very different (sorry about the 
clinical words). Why do adults have sex? In my experience there are 
a myriad of reasons including: expressing love to my partner, 
maintaining a loving relationship with my partner, as a vent for 
lust, and sometimes to make a baby. But when a young child asks 
about sex they are not asking "How will I physically express my 
feelings to my partner when I'm older", they are not asking "What 
should I do with my horny feelings", but they are asking "Where do I 
come from". When my kids stated asking these questions they first 
wanted to know in general terms, then my daughter wanted more detail 
on the birth process, and then they wanted the mechanics of the 
father's role in making a baby.

But that's probably a moot point, since I doubt parents use fan-fic 
for their kid's sexual education.


Cheers,


Dumbledad.


> Wouldn't you as a parent want to make sure your child knows that 
if he is
> one of those kids, you will love him unconditionally? I certainly 
would. And
> I certainly wish that my parents had assured me of that love 
before I came
> out to them last year, though they did so afterwards ‹ it would 
have made
> the whole process a lot less stressful.

Good advice, thanks.