What's Love Got To Do With It?

[Tim Regan]

Hi All,

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter Cindy wrote: 
> First, I started to wonder if I have the longest 
> marriage of anyone on OTC 

There are lots of people on the list, so I bet we get some really 
long marriages showing up. Anyway to chip in with mine, I married 
Kate on the 21st of December 1990, so it's nearly 13 years ago for 
us too. But we started walking out together some time before that, 
18th of March 1983, when I was just 17 and Kate was 18. When I see 
17 year olds now, I cannot believe that they would be capable of 
making such a momentous decision as `choosing' the love of their 
life. I guess that's me getting old and forgetting what it's like to 
be young. As Dumbledore said:

"old men are guilty if they forget what it was to be young "

> Second, I started to wonder if there is any common 
> characteristic among those who are married for a 
> long time.  I know my own views of what makes a 
> good partner have changed dramatically since I was 
> a blushing bride.  But I'm wondering what everyone 
> else thinks about that -- what does love have to do 
> with it?  And what else is involved?

I think love has loads to do with it; and shared interests, lust, 
common visions, and commitment - you both need to believe in the 
long term enough to persevere through bad patches. Not that I'm ever 
the cause of bad patches you understand ;-)

Cheers,

Dumbledad.