Getting replies (was Prefects)

[Steve]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at yahoogroups.com, "David" <dfrankiswork at n...> wrote:
> Shaun wrote:
> 
> > Sometimes I wonder if I smell. Posts I think might inspire some 
> > comment go unnoticed (I guess I'm a bad judge). 


> David:
> 
> Shaun, you said it so well there was nothing to add.  ...
> 
> You are by no means the only list member who, IMO, has this 'problem'.
> 
> ...edited...
> 
> Try a wizard chat-up line instead.
> 
> David

Shaun, David is right, we all have this problem, and it causes a trace
of insecurity in all of us. But the truth is, usually post that get no
response are so simple and obvious that everyone moves on. Or more
likely, in the case of reasonably intelligent people, the posts are
simply too good. 

You said something so well that no one really has anything to add, and
the group rules prevent people from writing post that only say 'I
agree' or 'me too'. So even for people who agree and would like to
respond, unless they can really expand the discussion, there really
aren't allowed to. Although, that's not such a big problem in this
group. However, in the main group where they get 2,000 to 3,000 post a
month, endless 'me too' posts severly and needlessly clutter things up.

Sometimes if you have posted an exceptionally good insight, and people
have nothing to add, they will at least acknowledge your post by
contacting you directly.

Another thing that helps is to stick around a while and keep trying.
Sometimes after people in the group get a feel for you, and understand
you a little more, they will feel more comfortable going for your jugular.

By the way, I thought you prefect post we excellent, very informative
and insightful. I've learned a lot in this group about all aspects of
British culture.

As a side note, you will frequently find that the most heated and long
lasting discussions hinge around a misunderstanding, some unintended
aspect of your post, or some unrelated off-hand comment.

There is a thread (actually, several threads) in the main group that
have been going on since August 17 about whether Harry or anyone else
in the books is gay. This all started because someone added an
off-hand, intended to be taken lightly, comment to a very long post
about relationships. The comment that spark two weeks of very heated
discussion was-

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HPforGrownups/message/77686

"You can replace *woman* by *man* if you believe that it better fits
Harry's taste."

This was in a post that was 775 words long, so you know this one
sentence doesn't reflect the author's overal intent.

Short version- hang in there, your posts are not going unnoticed. 

Just a thought.

bboy_mn