Gay is damaged, straight is normal

[msbeadsley]

This is my first time on OT Chatter. Somebody on the main list sent 
me over here to check out the "gay is damaged" thread.

JDR: 
> I don't think people with unresolved dramas in their lives should 
> reproduce, but that't just me. As for the rest of the possibly gay 
> student characters in HP (e.g. Justin F-F, Seamus), they *are* too 
> healthy. Gay or straight, our Draco's the only one with 
> complementary neuroses for our Harry.

I (who have been in a het relationship for almost twenty years) did 
not reproduce partly due to "unresolved dramas," am comfortable with 
the decision I made, and am *still* offended by this. Your opinion is 
yours inalienably, okay, but I'd still rather have you kill, skin, 
clean, and cook it before you flop it onto the dinner table.

> I totally understand why some people took offense. It's *my* 
> neurosis that I'm not chastened in the least. I'm schizoid (not 
> schizophrenic, ok? It means I don't relate well to my fellow human 
> beings) and proud of it.

The "and proud of it" is another red flag. If the above paragraph is 
true in what you say and in the simultaneous awareness you claim of 
it, then isn't the only possible conclusion for anyone else to have 
that you don't *care* how you affect or upset people? I understand a 
failure to "relate well to my fellow human beings"--my best friend 
has major organic brain damage and drives people, including me, 
crazy, including interpersonally; she does not, however, use her CAT 
scan as an excuse to mess with people's heads.

If what you are saying is all true, if you are proudly bearing a self-
issued license to cause whatever mayhem occurs to you, then why 
should anyone who knows that ever bother to engage you at all? Let's 
make this for a moment about enlightened self-interest and see if it 
penetrates.

Sandy aka "msbeadsley" who *thinks* she remembers "The Sergeant 
Majorette" as someone connected to wisdom now and then on the main 
board