the point of argument
Amy Z
lupinesque at yahoo.com
Wed Mar 24 16:13:51 UTC 2004
Silverthorne wrote:
>Although it;s nice to be heard, sometimes it's wiser to leave it
>alone, if not for your own sake, than for everyone else who has
>to 'listen' to it.
I have two thoughts on that.
One, no one has to listen to it; the beauty of a list is that you
can read the threads you like, & skip the ones that make you groan.
That is why the administrators of this list tend to use a light hand
and declare as few topics as possible off-limits. The medium is not
sound, where it is hard to ignore a conversation, but sight, where
it is easy.
Two, I was finding it edifying.
Three--three thoughts! I have THREE thoughts!--yes, I agree with
you, sometimes it's wiser to leave it alone & each participant has
to be free to walk away when it's no longer fruitful for them.
Four, an almost fanatical devotion to the Pope.
Um, where was I? Oh yeah. I guess I have a lot of faith in
people's ability to change their minds; I frequently change my mind
as a result of other people's explanations of their stances (not
about the war, though <grins at Amanda> [sorry for the in-joke . . .
believe me, if you don't like conflict, you don't *want* to know
about my & Amanda's political discussions]). I especially like
discussions where people are giving and taking, acknowledging each
other's points, sharing the evolution of their ideas: in short,
learning from each other.
The reason I found it edifying is that although I agree almost
entirely with Laura, I was also aware as I read that I had just
written at some length (in another context) about how things *have*
eroded in some of the ways you described. I wasn't specifically
writing about manners, but I do think manners are in decline--heaven
knows there are plenty of 60-somethings who don't seem to know the
polite way to answer a telephone, but on the whole their manners are
noticeably more considerate than their grandchildren's. On the
other hand, I wholeheartedly agree that a generation that is less
racist, less sexist, more accepting of gays-lesbians-bisexuals-
transgendered folk, and more concerned about the environment than
the generation before indicates that, far from the good old days
being good, some things about the human personality have improved
vastly since then. I'm a hell of a lot more likely to have my civil
rights respected if Laura's generation writes the legislation.
IOW, I have mixed feelings. Sitting in on a discussion where I have
agreement with more than one person is particularly interesting--it
stimulates all sorts of questions in myself about whether I'm
holding contradictory opinions.
Just my 2+ Knuts,
Amy Z
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