[HPFGU-OTChatter] Re: Inappropriate content accessed from JKR.com

[P. Alexis Nguyen]

Argus Pyrites:
> Do you really equate learning to apply a condom (even a puritanical
> demonstration that inadvertantly teaches of the secondary uses of
> some fruits and vegtables) with felching, beastiality, cock-and-ball-
>  torture, incest, necrophelia, BDSM, etc.? I don't think most of
> these are in an average 11 year olds worldview, nor do I feel it is
> an approprite age to introduce these sorts of topics. I have talked
> to both my daughters about sex, and rape, even touching on incest
> briefly, actually slowly starting into these discussions when they
> were both about 5. But, no, I hope not to be explaining felching for
> at least four years more at minimum.

Ali:
It has been a while since I've been 11 and times have changed
somewhat, but as far as I can recall, while things like felching may
not have been part of the 11-yr-old vocab, that age is not too far
from teenage-hood, whose general vocab does tend to include less
savory terms like felching, whose meaning I really would rather have
never learned.  Sadly, while it is something a parent would rather
never think of, I would not worry about your child learning the terms
so much as them feeling comfortable talking to you about it.  There
are much less savory things in the world, but really, if your kids
feel that they can come to you about such things as explaining
felching or why people do it, I would say you've done insanely well.
Of all my friends (when I was around that age), I think I can count on
one hand the amount of whom would feel anything near comfortable about
approaching their parents and asking about anything vaguely sexual.

I'm with Steve on the particular point that your kid is going to learn
about the less-than-tasteful aspects of life when she's ready (or even
when she's not), but it's up to you to make sure that she knows where
you stand on those matters.  If you've done that, then it's up to her
to decide where to go from there.  My parents took that approach with
me, and I think I turned out to be a, more or less, functional human
being, no more scarred for knowing about felching, snowballing or
other things that I would rather have never known.


Argus:
> Who said Remove the link? My idea is that this Fandom Glossary get
> moved into the area where this Adult Content is kept, which has
> adequate safeguards on it, rather than on their home page...
> Immeritus is a great site with many loyal fans. I hold nothing
> against them, and they were very reasonable when I wrote them. We
> parted agreeing to disagree basically. Then I thought I'd double
> check with the HP4GU group...

Ali:
In the age of the Internet, I've gotten pop-up ads that have
traumatized me more than than seeing the mere word "felch" written on
a webpage.  I do agree that the fandom glossary should be separated
into an "adult area," but really, if the worse thing your child learns
on the Internet were the words felch or snowballing, I wouldn't waste
psychiatric fees on the matter.

Anyway, those are my two cents, which are probably not worth two
cents.  To sum it up, I stand with Steve.  If you've done your job as
a parent and your children know what to do in certain situations as
well as your opinions on such matters, it's all you can do and
anything else is up to them.

~Ali