Why are Potter-Haters Still Here? (Ranting)

[doddiemoemoe]

Katie wrote:
*major snip*
 
> I just am finding the main group less and less fun, and it's because 
> the threads seem to be getting really negative and unpleasant. And I 
> know that if I hated something, I sure wouldn't waste my time and 
> effort writing about it. Like, I hate brussel sprouts, and I don't 
> belong to a brussel sprouts discussion group. :) 
> 
> By the way, Potioncat's new thread about "One Moment" is a lovely 
> breath of fresh air, and I thank her for that. 
> 
> Does anyone else feel as frustrated, or am I cracking up? Cheers, 
> Katie
>
Doddie here:
I'm not frustrated--I've been one who has posted her anger in the past
(Post HBP snape rants *blush*)...

I think one of the reasons why so many posts are the way they are is 
because of grief.(remember the five stages of grief?)

Denial (this isn't happening to me!)

Anger (why is this happening to me?)

Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)

Depression (I don't care anymore)

Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes) 

and you can list examples of your own--but one of my lists ran like 
this..

Denial: sheesh I cannot believe Snape was in Harry's corner all this 
time...Another, response Pansy parkinson---typical Slytherin...

Anger: What's with the long camping trip when so much was going on in 
the WW...or How dare Snape rifle through Harry's belongings and 
Grimauld place.

Depression: Fred, NO! not dear Fred--when will George laugh again?

Acceptance: I'm not quite there yet...while I know WHY Harry named his 
second son Albus Severus...I'd never name my kid Severus there must be 
some mistake..JKR must have been torn between Horace and Draco. LOL

It's the end of many characters as well as the end of the series--none 
of us are at our best while grieving..

After the grief--wow, look out at this group--look at the post OOP 
commentary after the death of Sirius, or even after GOF after the 
death of Cedric, or even after the death of DD in HBP? 
With so many deaths in this book combined with the end of the series 
I'd imagine feelings of grief to be at an all time high.

Anyhoo, I try to look at it this way so I don't get too caught up in 
heartfelt threads and when I do I write--but simply save my post to my 
drafts folder(and don't post until later or not at all)..I like to 
hear discussion/analysis/theories/predictions even a healthy debate is 
great..but I don't think we'll get the better debates until folks get 
through the stages..this entire series is so personal to many of us.

BTW thanx potioncat for your thread..I had so many moments...just 
bought back so many great memories from the entire series not just DH.

And thank you Katie for yours I think I may actually have an answer to 
your question. I hope it helps your understanding why and I could be 
wrong but I hope not.

Doddiemoe,
(who still gets teary eyed when she thinks of Dobby, but then 
remembers Kreacher--and wishes Kreacher had shown up with his copper 
pot, but is glad he bought a cleaver/knife! LOL)