One reporter reacts to JKR's revelations
Tonks
tonks_op at yahoo.com
Fri Nov 9 06:50:13 UTC 2007
> ***Katie:
But I, to whom Del was initially resonding, haven't called
> anyone a bigot. I *specifically* have been referring to thoughts
and
> beliefs, *not* people. I have been trying very hard to keep the
tone
> of the conversations civil, and I feel like I'm being yelled at in
> return. I understand it is very difficult to convey tone in this
> format, but I do feel like some posts are very aggressive.
>
Tonks:
Well as an innocent bystander, I think both of you think that the
other is attacking and both of you think that you are not. Of
course, to some extent it will depend on the POV of the bystander as
to which one of you is or is not attacking. If I tend to agree with
Del I will think that Del is being attacked. And if I agree with
Susan, or Katie, I will think that anyone with the opposite view is
attacking. It is hard in these debates not to take some things
personally. Our ideas, if near and dear to us, become part of us and
when they are attacked, it can feel as if we are being attacked. (I
know that I have felt this way on the main list a time or two in the
past.) That is the nature of a debate when both sides own their POV
and are not just debating for the hell of it. I think that is just
the way it is.
I agree that it would be best if we didn't bring negative judgements
and slur words into the discussion. On the other hand I can
understand the anger that this subject invokes in some who have been
unfairly treated by society. It is hard to understand the other
person's POV when you are hurting yourself. I remember once as a
child, my mother taught me to put myself in the other person's place
and using my imagination, ask myself how that person might be
feeling when I do such and such.
It has been a learning experience for me to discover, here on this
list, that for the younger people in our society, who do not
remember the way things use to be, that it is apparently is a whole
different world out there. Or maybe all of you are just from New
York. ;-)
Tonks_op
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