One reporter reacts to JKR's revelations

[Katie]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at yahoogroups.com, "constant2chatter" 
<Churchmouse365 at ...> wrote:

> I don't personally care what anyone's
> orientations are. 


***Katie: Of course you do. If you didn't care, it wouldn't be such a 
big deal to you. If you didn't care, we wouldn't be having this 
conversation.


>Churchmouse:  This is me on the subject of sexual orientation; In the
> 1980's TIME magazine ran a story about gay men in San Francisco, one
> interview stuck out, the interviewer asked how many partners over 
>the past year and one guy said 540.   There are only 365 days in a 
>year. 


***Katie: So, because of a singular interview of a singular person, 
you assume that all gay people are promiscuous? What about all the 
promiscuous people that are heterosexual? Is that person's lifestyle 
a comment on all heterosexuals? No. And neither is this. 


That's like saying, "Well, I read that a lot of black people are in 
jail, so all black people are criminals." I mean, come on. IMO, that 
is just plain silly.


All the gay people I know are in monogamous relationships or looking 
for a monogamous relationship...just like straight people. My father 
was in a monogamous gay relationship for more than 20 years before he 
passed away. If he was alive, he would still be in that relationship. 
My father's partner is like a second father to me, and a grandfather 
to my children. Gay people value relationships and family just as 
much as straight people. That's just incredibly insulting,IMO, to 
basically accuse all gay people of being sexually promiscuous. Del 
and I had just come to a nice peace, where name-calling had ended. 
Let's please remember to be polite to one another. : ) We can 
disagree without being insulting.



Churchmouse:The Catholic Church and the pope say that being Gay may 
be genetic, but those that are should not act on it, and those that 
are not should treat everyone fairly and without persecution.  I 
don't have to know anything else.  


***Katie: Um...I'm Catholic. And my church has a gay and lesbian 
ministry. And there are gay and lesbian couples who have kids that 
attend mass every Sunday. I'm not sure what you're trying to say 
here. 

  
Churchmouse: So maybe the better question is what makes someone gay?  
Because being sensitive, creative, artistic are HUMAN traits and are 
shared to some extent with everyone.  To me what makes you Gay is 
having sex with the same gender; if you are not having sex then you 
are abstinent.  So you can choose to be gay.
> Constant2Chatter


***Katie: I think an awful lot of people would disagree with you 
here. So, if you are heterosexual, but not in a sexual relationship, 
does your sexuality disappear? Do you no longer have a sexual 
identity, just because you are not actively having sex? Of course 
not. Sexual orientation is an identity, not an activity. 


Being gay is NOT a choice. Did you or I choose to be heterosexual? 
No. We were born that way - hard-wired to like the opposite sex. Gay 
people are hard-wired to like the same sex. That's how God made them, 
so how on earth could he disapprove? That's my opinion, anyway. 


As far as addressing your "human" traits, I agree with you 
completely. You're absolutely right. Gay people and straight people 
share being human...so what's the big deal?


Katie