Wondering

[Tonks]

> 
> Del replies:
> We're still not exactly on the same page, since you say "you don't
> associate his gayness", while I said that in my theory he's not 
gay at all.
> 
> In my theory, DD is neither gay nor straight: he's attracted to
> teenage boys. "Gay" and "straight" refer to attraction to adults, 
and DD is not attracted to adults at all in my theory.
> 
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> 3C- DD never showed any attraction to any adult.
> 4C- DD showed strange moral weakness where some handsome boys were
> concerned.
> 
> And that's when the ephebophilia theory was born.
> 
> You'll notice that in the final C list above, I don't mention DD 
being gay a single time. I do mention his being attracted to a fellow
> teenage boy, but this in itself does not make him gay. And when 
taken together with 3C, it points to DD *not* being gay at all.

Tonks:
Allow me to throw a bit more wood on the fire. As if there were not 
enough now. lol.

I remember learning something about the stages of development 
related to sexual orientation when studying Psychology in college, 
but don’t remember it in detail. However, I just found this on the 
Internet:

“Heterosexual, gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth can all experience 
same-gender sexual attraction and/or activity around puberty. Such 
behavior, including sexual play with same-gender peers, crushes on 
same-gender adults, or sexual fantasies about same-gender people are 
normal for pre-teens and young teens and are not necessarily related 
to sexual orientation.” (from this website: 
http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/lessonplans/circlesofsexuality3.htm)

JKR has said that DD is gay. I am not happy about it, but “it is 
what it is”, she says. However if you want to make a case for her 
being wrong, this might be the angle to take. Kids in early 
adolescent can be attracted to a member of the same sex and ever 
engage in sexual experimentation with them and not be gay, but 
straight. It is a stage, has a name I think, but I don’t remember it.

Tonks_op