[HPFGU-OTChatter] How to Have a Successful Resolution /Re: New Years resolutions

[Sharon Hayes]

> Sharon:
> You know, I don't usually make resolutions, but yours is a very
good one! I stopped making resolutions years ago because I always
broke them in the first week (well, january 1st if I'm honest). But
this year I really want to be more productive, so I think I will
join you in your new year's resolution and try to stop
procrastinating!
>

Tonks:
I have always been very successful at New Years Resolutions. Not
each one, but I usually achieve most of them.

Allow me to be so bold as to offer a word of advise. I use to be a
Psychotherapist and we had to write treatment goals for our clients.
If you want to stop procrastinating, the thing to do is ask yourself
what is the opposite of procrastantion. Your subconcious mind will
help you to achieve your goal, but it can't do a negative. Your goal
has to be phrased in postive terms. What you WANT to do, not what
you don't want to do. So as an example you might say your goal is:
To be puctual. Or something else, use your own words that mean
something to you. (I am late to everything and don't really care, so
that would not be a good resolution for me.) But you get the idea.
<SNIP>

Sharon again:
Thanks for the great advice :-)  I do the goal thing actually, learnt it years ago and do achieve most of what I want to, but I am cursed with an obsessive personality, so when I get obsessed with something it gets 90% of my attention. The rest of what I need to do goes into the other 10%. Need I add that my current obsession is -- you guessed it, all things Harry Potter! To the point where I have to analyse it SO much that I even research it at work (lucky I do social research!). Meanwhile, other projects get my least attention, or just enough to get done adequately, which is OK, but not ideal. To prove just how obsessed I am, I am currently writing a HP fanfic for one of my first year classes on social ethics ( a slash one at that -- we do a unit on sex and crime)! LOL.

Having said that, I can't say I am worried much about being obsessive. It's kinda fun and my boss just pats me on the head and calls me eccentric ;-) Maybe that's why I never keep my resolutions -- I just really don't care enough.