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<A title=catlady@wicca.net href="mailto:catlady@wicca.net">Rita Winston</A>
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Saturday, May 19, 2001 7:17
PM</DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> [HPFGU-OTChatter] Re:
Confessions of a Stepford wife (was Names)</DIV>
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<DIV><TT>--- In <A href="mailto:HPFGU-OTChatter@y">HPFGU-OTChatter@y</A>...,
<A href="mailto:aichambaye@y">aichambaye@y</A>... wrote:<BR><BR>> Me, I
went from Heather A. Denton to Heather A. D. Mbaye. (snip)<BR>> Now I
have a cool academic name.<BR><BR>(snip)<BR>What I accidentally left out of
the previous post (it isn't really <BR>relevant to this post) is that Miss
Manners wrote that people can do <BR>whatever they want to their own names,
but the actual rule of <BR>etiquette is to CHANGE the last name, that is, keep
first and middle <BR>names, drop maiden name, add husband's surname. That is
only one of <BR>a myriad of examples in which what EVERYONE does is opposite
of what <BR>Miss Manners say is etiquette.<BR><BR></TT><BR><FONT
face="Courier New">I always thought that that was the way it was done.
My best friend, who's 30,took her husband's name and kept her maiden
name as the middle name. My mother, who was married in 1960, did the
same. in fact, I'm named after her and I'm called by my middle name
which is her maiden name. You see, her first name is Elizabeth and she's
called Betty. She was afraid that if they called me Elizabeth as well,
I'd end up being "little Betty," and she did NOT want to be known as "Big
Betty."</FONT></DIV>
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