Friendship and loneliness

[delwyn_march]

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From: delwyn_march
Subject: Friendship and loneliness
Date: 8/18/00 8:42 am  (ET)

I've been wondering about what kind of friendship Harry, Ron and
Hermione share.

I mean, sometimes they act like they are really close, like for example
when Ron and his family come and "rescue" Harry from the Dursleys, but
at other times they just don't seem to care about each other's feelings.

I felt very sad for Hermione in PoA when Harry and Ron let her down just
because her cat had presumably eaten Ron's rat (I don't mean that pets
aren't important, I still get sad when I remember how much I loved my
cat and how hard it was to have the vet put him to "sleep"), especially
since Ron wasn't that much taken with Scabbers *and* she couldn't find no
other friends (she doesn't fit in the female Gryffindor gang, nor with
the other guys). And then I read GoF and wham ! It's Ron that's letting
Harry down, just because he's a (great) bit jealous and without caring
to ask himself a few useful questions ("Would Harry really want to enter
the Tournament ?" or "Would he do it without telling me ?"). And there
are many more examples.

All this to say that, in my opinion, Harry, Ron and Hermione might be good
friends, but not *close* friends. They are together more because they are
the first person they met (Harry and Ron), or because things turned out
that way accidentally (Hermione quite unvoluntarily shared one of Harry
and Ron's nights out of bed, and stayed with them because they didn't
really mind her presence and she didn't find better elsewhere), but they
don't seem to be putting any special efforts in their relationship to
make it grow stronger. It's sad but they just take it for granted and
when something breaks, they just wait for it to mend all by itself.

In a way, I'm looking forward for them to meet more adversity on their
way, since that's the only thing that could make them grow closer (or
break up completely !)

Sorry for the long post, but I've never been able to write anything
*short* in my whole life, especially when it's something that's bothering
me as much as this frienship issue does !

Doriane