Sirius - Pre Azkaban

[siriusgeologist]

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From: siriusgeologist
Subject: Re: Sirius - Pre Azkaban
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Date: 8/23/00 12:12 am  (ET)

> never quite grasped the concept of that institution."

he would have to say something like: "marriage made sense for James
and Lily because they were like two halves of one person, but it
always seemed to me that marriage for everyone else was more like tying
themselves together to run a three-legged race: unnatural, inefficient,
and eventually very annoying."

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My only comment to that would be, barring a study of socrates, why would
you think of your best friend in the world as only half a person. I think
Sirius understands that Lily makes James happy and vice versa, and that
marriage was a useful institution....but if you have never been in a soul
mate type relationship, it is a hard concept to fully grasp...you can
grasp it intellectually, but can you really grasp it emotionally until
you've felt it yourself...then you have that "aha" moment. That's what
he meant by never grasped the concept of that institution...he hadn't
had that "aha" and so marriage was not something he was interested in.

I know you can tell when you look at friends who are soulmates that they
are meant to be together, but he just can't apply it to himself. Which
is to say that I think we are agreeing on this, with minor inflections
of interpretation.

I do like your phrasing of the comparison to three legged race....however,
the line that started this thread (see chapter 6, ASA just posted
today) was spoken in the midst of a confrontation without the time for
introspection necessary to come up with the 1/2 person 3 legged race
thing. Plus he couldn't use James and Lily to explain his concept of
marriage as he has not yet brought them up in front of Cordelia.

Thanks for following the story, though...and hope noone else minds this
slightly off topic discussion (although it is primarily about Sirius'
mind set)

Carole