Ron and Harry!!

[Susan McGee]

No: HPFGUIDX 7474

--- In HPforGrownups at egroups.com, "Stephanie Becvar" 
<StephBecvar at h...> wrote:
> I have let built up frustration and anger on this subject simmer 
for far too 
> long.  I want to voice...LOUDLY if i must, my disent at the slasher 
> group...or whatever they are called.  First off by saying that we 
all know 
> it was never JKs intent and it will never hapen being as thse are 
children's 
> books.  Also being 16, i can pretty closely relate with what is 
going on.  I 
> have a lot of close friends.  But particularly i have a best 
friend, a girl 
> signe, and a very close friend but not quite as good as best  ;) 
guy friend 
> chris.  Now, Chris and I are very close, But we could never be as 
close as 
> Signe or i mainly bc we relate to each others emotions better as 
females.  
> that however does not mean we need to start having sexual 
feelings.  I did 
> think about those 2 as  a pair before i sat down so as not to make 
a total 
> idiot of myself, But i must say it is rather silly.  HP to me is 
not the 
> melodramatic world of american television where virtually every 
show has a 
> gay/lesbian character on it...(in case anyone wonders, I dont have 
a problem 
> with gay ppl, all of my step mothers siblings are and i love them 
all to 
> pieces)  I mean, where have Harry and Ron ever shown any sign or 
tendency as 
> to this?  Normally i am open minded with these things bc i can see 
a point i 
> know of evidence that i myself remember that could point this way, 
but for 
> this i see none.  While yes, Ron matters to Harry more than anyone 
else 
> mainly bc they are best freinds...they have a bond something like 
brothers, 
> i know bc my best friend signe matters to me more than anyone else 
in the 
> world, bf or chris my other really close friend.  I know this is a 
rather 
> long rant with prob a bit too much info about me in it   ;)   but i 
couldnt 
> help as to wondering where you get the factual basis for this from, 
I 
> mean...for now I would def declare Ron a heterosexual...and Harry 
too based 
> upon his "feelings for cho" (which i in no way support)  I mean, if 
you can 
> show me evidence from the books, i will gladly eat my words....but 
until 
> then i remain vehmnently opposed to this   :)
> 
> Stephanie the Seething
> _________________________________________________________________


I'm really glad you are so tolerant Stephanie, and have friends who 
are lesbian and gay, and have "no problem" with gay people. How nice. 
For the record, I don't watch television so
I have no idea what's going on in U.S. television.

But I don't quite understand why you are so angry. Why is this such a 
hot spot for you?

Certainly Ron and Harry's tight friendship and relationship in the
best history of buddies does not mean that there is an erotic or 
sexual element in it. Many people have best friends and buddies they 
adore and would die for who they are not erotically attracted to.

However, Harry's fantasies about Cho, and Ron's interest in Fleur and 
Hermione do not necessarily preclude Harry and Ron's relationship 
having erotic content to it. In life, many intense adolescent 
friendships have erotic content to them. Sometimes that erotic 
content is ignored (people are obsessed with each other). But in 
fact, many adolescent boys do act on their erotic feelings for their 
male friends, and not just on U.S. television. This does not mean 
that they are gay or that they will choose men for partners.
Many people in their lives have erotic feelings or have sexual 
activities for both genders. It's not all that uncommon.

Susan