More gay discussion, lots, and I'll stop now

[Susan McGee]

No: HPFGUIDX 4244

--- In HPforGrownups at egroups.com, Amanda Lewanski <editor at t...> wrote:
Amanda:  
> And certainly gay relationships involve love. Jeez, how else are 
they  relationships? At least in my psyche, love is essential before 
sex can even
> be contemplated. But is a deep love between characters of the same 
sex
> enough to identify them to readers as "gay"? 

Susan: no


Amanda:  I don't know that it should be,
> or would be accurate. Because I love several ladies very, very much 
and
> would walk through fire for them--but I don't have the slightest 
interest in
> a physical expression of it with them, and am very much 
heterosexual. The
> same for my husband--"shield brother" friends. Perhaps we don't 
have the
> same definitions of gay or lesbian? 

Susan: seems as if we do

I brought up the physical aspects
> because I considered that a physical component of some sort would 
have to be
> included so that the reader would have no doubt that this is, 
indeed, a gay
> character. 

Susan: instead of just referring to them as lesbian or gay. Or just 
saying that "Joe had a real crush on Paul and wanted to ask him to 
the Yule Ball". No physical component there.