Question regarding Secrets

[Kelley]

No: HPFGUIDX 1007

--- In HPforGrownups at egroups.com, "Trina " <lj2d30 at g...> wrote:
> What we have to remember is that Harry does not come from a 
> background where trusting adults comes easily.  It's stay in the 
> background, be quiet, don't ask questions. Do it it on your own.
>  Harry has come a long way in trusting adults since the 1st book now
> that he has good adult role models with Dubledore, McGonagall, the 
> Weasley parents, Sirius, and Lupin.  Yes, he still has a tendency 
>to keep things from them. Is this because of 10 years of never being 
> believed about anything he says, or simply an adolescent keeping his
> own counsel? 

Maybe I'm not seeing the symptoms of his life with the Dursleys.  'Do 
it on your own' seems to be the 'lone hero' quality in Harry.  Yes, 
he does seem to have made some progress in trusting adults...

> And in GoF he *does* go to trustworthy adults when he is worried -- 
> he wrote Sirius regarding his scar pain and ran to  Dumbledore when 
> he and Krum found Mr. Crouch wandering the Hogwarts grounds. 

I was really thinking of Dumble specifically.  There's always a scene 
where Dum asks Harry if there's something he'd like to tell him.  
And, finding Crouch Sr. was really a different circumstance than not 
wanting to tell Dum he can talk to snakes or saw a grim or whatever...

> Yeah, after writing Sirius he had doubts "Was I totally paranoid or 
>what?"  But hasn't everyone here done the same thing?  Appearing the 
>paranoid fool is a natural fear.

Well, certainly, he doesn't want to appear paranoid, a fool, a 
hypochondriac, whatever.  But, I'm not suggesting he tell everyone, 
just Dumble.  He's learned by now that Dumble won't treat him like a 
fool.  He has respect for Harry, doesn't patronize him.

> Also there still many adults in positions of authority in his new 
>world that *never* believe him--Snape, Fudge.

Well, Snape, that's the last person who's made himself out to be 
someone Harry can trust, next to Vold, wouldn't you say?  And, Fudge--
he's a whole new can of worms, now.  These people haven't shown 
themselves to be worthy of Harry's trust like Dumble has.

> Harry doesn't have a good track record with trust, outside of Ron 
>and Hermione.  I think in the future he will be more willing to go 
>to adults in time of need.

True.  R & H have proven themselves as true friends to Harry, even 
with the spats.  I do think he'll come around with Dumble in the next 
books, otherwise it wouldn't make sense. 

> He has finally realized the enormity of Voldemort's malevolence, 
>having seen it firsthand (since he has no easily recalled memories 
>of the first run-in, I'm not counting it) and knows he cannot face 
>what may come alone.  He will need to trust others outside of his 
>close circle of friends.
> 
> Trina

Yes.  And, he may not remember what happened the first time, but he's 
had to live with the repercussions-- life with the Dursleys, who hate 
him, not with his parents who love him.  He will have to trust others 
(adults) now, like he hasn't before.  I'm looking forward to it.  
Will he be part of a team, or will he still try to do it all 
himself?  Of course, he'll remain the 'hero', but he needs to use his 
team.

Kelley