[HPforGrownups] Re: H/H and why it's just wrong

[Peg Kerr]

No: HPFGUIDX 2293

cassandraclaire73 at yahoo.com wrote:

> That's the thing that annoys me: if I read one more H/H fanfic where
> Ron says  some variation of "I knew you guys always liked each other,
> I'm so happy for  you, I'm glad I got over that little crush in our
> fourth year", I am going to   scream!  We all know that even if Ron
> did get over his crush, he would still   be jealous of anyone else
> who
> went out with Hermione.

<snip?>

> Ah, you picked up on that? *grins* Nobody else did...I agree that Ron
> often gets shunted aside in fanfic by people racing to pair up Harry
> and Hermione; I'm certainly guilty of that, too. (Although my
> original
> intention was to pair up Hermione and Draco, but that just didn't
> work
> out.) I think it can work, however, without having to make Ron either
> dead or terminally evil as a result. The main problem with a Harry/
> Hermione relationship vis-a-vis Ron, in my opinion (and it's just my
> opinion) is not his jealousy over Hermione per se, but his resentment
> over being suddenly a third wheel. He already has issues about being
> in Harry's shadow, as we all know, and being part of this very strong
> trio of friends is a large part of his identity. If he felt shut out
> by Harry and Hermione, I can certainly see that being the end of
> their
> joint friendship.

Off topic, but not really: there's a pretty good movie that deals with
exactly this situation: Keeping the Faith (see
http://us.imdb.com/Title?0171433 on the Internet Movie Database).  Three
kids, two boys and a girl, grow up together and have a fantastically close
friendship.  One of the boys becomes a priest and the other a rabbi.
Everything changes when the girl comes back into their lives and falls in
love with one of them--but which one?  Everyone is a decent person, and they
all really care for each other, and that's what makes it all the more
fascinating/heartbreaking.  I think the way the relationships all change
(between the two men as as as between the woman and each of the men) is
handled thoughtfully, sensitively and honestly.

Those interested in H/Hr and R/Hr relationships might want to take a look at
this movie for some insight into the way the dynamics might play out between
three people who really care for each other as they grow up, who start
realizing that developing romantic tension is going to change things
forever.

Peg