Analysis and HP4GU (was Re: On Respect and Kindness)

[meboriqua at aol.com]

No: HPFGUIDX 23451

--- In HPforGrownups at y..., "Ebony AKA AngieJ" <ebonyink at h...> wrote:

> Perhaps I can compare canon to a chicken leg (apologies to all 
> vegetarians--think of it as tofu!) to explain what I'm thinking 
> of.  ;-)>

Hi Ebony -

Once again, I agree with you.  You actually brought up a point that I 
had wanted to discuss for a while but couldn't find the right way to 
word it, so I held back.  What a relief to know I was not alone.

I snipped your chicken comment because it was a wonderful metaphor, 
even though I am a vegetarian.  It was also very accurate.  Perhaps 
I'll look at what's been going on as all the Ben and Jerry's flavors 
have been tried and now we're just going back to the ones we like.  
:-)  I just had to say that.

One thing I think is important to say here is that we may all be 
nitpickers, and we may think to ourselves "Ach!  Not *that* thread 
again!"  or "Oooh, I do not like his attitude when he posts!".  I know 
I do that all the time.  However, I do not have to respond to that 
thread or to that person.  The beauty of this list (well, one of the 
beauties) is that we can skip a thread we don't like or skip over a 
person whose postings annoy us.  Is it really necessary to prove to 
everyone how right we are all the time?  It is okay to think what you 
want.  Everyone would hate me if I posted all the obnoxious things I 
think or say to my boyfriend about postings I do not like.

Ebony, I am sure you have made mistakes in front of your students.  I 
do all the time.  Who cares?  They correct me and we move on.  That's 
how it could be here.  I recently made a whopper of a grammatical 
error and John delightedly tore me to shreds about it - OFF LIST.  I 
felt stupid (because I am extremely grammatically oriented and 
grammatical errors make me want to tear my hair out), laughed, and 
that was that.  It is when people continue to pick postings apart on 
the main list that people recede into lurkdom.  I have been attacked 
on list before and it doesn't feel good.  

My main point amidst all this babbling is to SKIP what you don't want 
to read.  Remember what Dumbledore said about our choices?  We do not 
have to read every post and we do not have to correct every person.  
So there.

--jenny from ravenclaw***********************