H/H Dull & R/H Loads of Fun? (contrarian view)

[Kelley]

No: HPFGUIDX 11513

> Kelley wrote:
>>And I feel exactly the same Kathy, R/H has much more 'fun'-> 
>>potential than H/H to me.  I know, H/H-ers, I know, that doesn't 
>>counter 'H/H are more suited in the real world' etc., but come on, 
>>be honest:  doesn't H/H just seem a tad dull?
> 
> Penny wrote;
> Well .... since you asked my opinion:  No!  I don't see H/H as dull 
at all.
> 
> But, I also don't see R/H as being necessarily all fun at all.  
See ....
> I don't regard bickering & spatting as fun (or an aphrodisiac!).  
I've had relationships in the past that were all bickering (or 
worse!), and it was emotionally exhausting to me.  I find it to be 
absolutely positively zero fun to be picking at each other 
constantly.  So, that just goes to my perception about how a good 
relationship works.  I acknowledge that this modus operandi works for 
others.  But, it sure wouldn't have worked for me.  I can count on 
both hands the number of fights my husband & I've had in over 10 
years of knowing one another.
> That style of relationship is just more my cup of tea so the whole 
idea of R/H is lost on me from the beginning, if for no other reason 
than I can't fathom bickering and fighting constantly as a foundation 
for a solid, compatible relationship.  I identify so strongly with 
Hermione that I also have a hard time picturing *her* wanting that 
either.
> That's a big part of my mental block against R/H.<<<<<<<<<<<<

Penny, in real life, I agree with everything you said.  If I were 
looking for a real-life partner for myself in the books, I'd go with 
Lupin.  Or, even a male Hermione, minus the bossiness.  I suppose I'm 
just not looking to canon for what I think would be best in real 
life.  I do believe R/H will be a more entertaining pairing in 
canon.  I love Harry, but he really does seem a bit uninteresting to 
me.  Ron and Herm have far more vivid personalities.  Does it seem to 
you (and any other H/H-ers) that R & He have no interaction beyond 
bickering?  I mean that in an absolutely non-inflammatory way, this 
is genuine curiosity.  They do have their arguments, but there've 
been arguments between all three so far.  I think Ron's sarcasm and 
Herm's bossiness/know-it-all traits are due to their immaturity.  I 
know she's quite mature for her age; what I mean is they're only 
fourteen years old.  I'm certainly hoping/expecting these aspects 
will be affected by their maturing in the next three books.  Can you 
give some idea of what spark there might be in an H/H pairing?  All I 
can picture is Herm helping Harry fight against Vold, just as it's 
been going.  I just can't see any romantic chemistry, so far in 
canon, and even when trying to imagine it in a future sense.  Just 
doesn't seem very conducive for any real passion.

> >Kelley wrote; 
> > I saw  R/H from canon, before I ever even found this group.  When 
I first learned of the H/H-ers, and how so many of them felt this way
> > from canon (before seeing PoU), I could not figure out where they 
got it from.
>
>Penny wrote; 
> That's funny -- there are tons of us H/H'ers who have talked to 
people who stare blankly and say, "There are really people who think 
Ron & Hermione will end up together?  Nah, that's too obvious.  The 
subtext is all there for H/H."
> 
> All a matter of perception I guess -- eh?  <vbg> <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

Huh.  Perception is right.  Personally, I've never discussed HP with 
anyone offline, and ship preferences only within this group so far.  
I do identify with Herm in bits, but not the way you do.  I don't 
seem to have any one character that I totally identify with, just 
aspects of many.  Maybe that's part of it; the books aren't clicking 
in with me in any 'real world' sort of way.  I'll have to chew on 
that for a while.

Kelley