Lupin - The Dream - Harry's trust (long)
Amy Z
aiz24 at hotmail.com
Thu Feb 8 04:01:25 UTC 2001
No: HPFGUIDX 11866
Margaret wrote:
> But of course Lupin is not perfect. He has a problem with intimacy.
> For example, he is reluctant at first to tutor Harry. Then, during
> one of their sessions when Harry needs a little emotional support,
> Lupin seems to want to provide it but draws back instead. He even
> fails to tell Harry that he and Harry's father were friends at
> school until it slips out during a session.
and also:
>7. Sirius had previously told Harry to seek out Professor Dumbledore
>the next time his scar hurt, and Harry actually does it. How big of a
>step forward is this for a kid who has previously >avoided confiding
>in anyone or asking for help?
It's interesting that these two topics were scheduled for the same
week, since I see a connection between these observations.
The Lupin/Harry interactions are some of my very favorite parts of the
whole series. Harry also has what you might call a problem with
intimacy, especially, as you point out, when it comes to asking for
advice or help (even from Dumbledore, whom he trusts so much). His
first one-on-one conversation with Lupin marks a breakthrough, despite
Lupin's own reticence: Lupin asks him whether anything is worrying
him, he says no, then he takes the plunge and tells Lupin what's on
his mind--in contrast to his decision in the similar conversation with
Dumbledore in CS. Maybe it *isn't* despite Lupin's reticence but
*because* of it; maybe Harry picks up on Lupin's reserve that is so
like his own, and responds to it by trusting him.
Harry's going to Dumbledore in "The Dream" is a big step in a gradual
evolution toward being more open, trusting, and willing to seek
counsel from adults. When he first enters the wizarding world, Harry
has every reason to believe that adults are not to be trusted or even
approached (rule #1 of living with the Dursleys: don't ask
questions). I think Lupin's surprising and gratifying response in
that first conversation--admitting that he'd deliberately stopped
Harry from facing the boggart, using Voldemort's name, and
giving voice to Harry's fear that Lupin had been thinking him
weak--helps Harry take the bigger step later in PA of confiding to him
what the Dementors do to him, something he's been keeping even from
Ron and Hermione. Harry opens up in ways we've never seen him do--I'm
thinking particularly of his declaration of trust and (as he thinks)
betrayal in the Shrieking Shack ("I trusted you, and all the time
you've been his friend") and of how quickly and passionately he
responds when he learns Lupin has resigned. Harry's relationship with
Lupin lays the groundwork for his trusting Sirius at the beginning of
GF and then, finally, trusting him enough to tell Dumbledore about his
scar as Sirius has told him to (I agree, this is a big moment).
Lupin seems a little distant, reserved to a fault perhaps, to those of
us who are generally trusting and wear our hearts on our sleeves (I
noticed how often he speaks "coolly"). But Harry probably wouldn't
think it odd that Lupin didn't volunteer the fact that he'd known
Harry's parents or that he holds back from putting an arm around him,
and it isn't surprising that Harry reproaches himself for asking Lupin
about Black, rather than reproaching Lupin for being so closemouthed
about something of urgent importance to Harry. The latter response
might be expected from a kid (such as Ron or Hermione) who is
accustomed to adults' being a source of advice, information, and
comfort. But for Harry, with his background of neglect and secrecy,
Lupin is a huge stride forward: an adult who doesn't pry or show his
own inner life much, but who is kind and concerned and therefore helps
draw out Harry's own trust.
Thoughts?
Amy Z
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"Cool, sir!" said Dean Thomas in amazement.
"Thank you, Dean," said Professor Lupin.
-HP and the Prisoner of Azkaban
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