Harry's CAN'T be the loner

[Jim Ferer]

No: HPFGUIDX 12201

Rebecca:"I agree wholeheartedly with Amy.  I can't see Harry as a 
loner, he'd get far too depressed.  I see him needing a lot of human 
contact and comfort when he's older.  Even in his squabbles with 
Hermione and Ron he shows us that he needs a steady, calm shrine for 
affection.  Plus, he *is* getting stronger emotionally and I think he 
will stick that way."

Harry isn't naturally a loner, we agree on that; but his experiences 
will cost him very deeply.  He is going to suffer; he's going to watch 
good people die; he's going to watch people he loves die, some of them 
horribly.  He's likely to be afraid to love anyone because of the 
losses he's been through. He can't risk it.  It will take him time to 
sort out what's happened to him.  I believe the trials he's faced so 
far, including the graveyard, are nothing compared to what he's going 
to go through. He may be getting stronger emotionally, but he's going 
to need it all and then some.

What we can agree on is that this state may not be permanent. Harry 
can emerge from it, but it's not automatic.


--- In HPforGrownups at y..., "Rebecca Boswell" <rboswell at m...> wrote:
>     I agree wholeheartedly with Amy.  I can't see Harry as a loner, 
he'd get
> far too depressed.  I see him needing a lot of human contact and 
comfort
> when he's older.  Even in his squabbles with Hermione and Ron he 
shows us
> that he needs a steady, calm shrine for affection.  Plus, he *is* 
getting
> stronger emotionally and I think he will stick that way.
> 
> Becca
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Amy Z" <aiz24 at h...>
> To: <HPforGrownups at y...>
> Sent: Tuesday, February 13, 2001 4:50 PM
> Subject: [HPforGrownups] Harry's resilience (was SHIPS: 
Harry/Hermione/Ron)
> 
> 
> > > SML:"Or else Harry will be ever the loner, having casual
> > relationships
> > > with ladies but never settling down or being serious, as a 
result
> > of
> > > the emotional damage he's suffered."
> >
> > Jim:
> >  > The most plausible scenario of all for Harry. I really see him
> > as "the
> > > man alone."  He may lose what he saved for everybody else.
> >
> > This may be wishful thinking on my part--I've been known to 
indulge
> > in it--but I see Harry as being a lot more resilient than that.  
He
> > has already come through a really rotten childhood with his sense 
of
> > self intact, and it's improving.  (He's pretty scrappy vis-a-vis 
the
> > Dursleys even in Book 1 Chapter 2, but gets scrappier with each
> > book.)  Even after the annual attempts on his life, he seems to be
> > getting more, not less, trusting, confident, resourceful, _____ 
(fill
> > in your favorite sign of healthy emotional development).  He is 
wiser
> > and no doubt sadder in many ways than he was 4 years ago, but not
> > embittered or alienated.
> >
> > Amy Z
> > now bucking for job of Harry's therapist
> >
> >
> >
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