[HPforGrownups] Lack of human affection in books

[Usual Suspect]

No: HPFGUIDX 12653

Um.  I think it's a British thing.  You don't really expect big hugs in anything, especially kids books.  Kids books are not big on hugs, and neither for that matter are tv series or films....

And I didn't see anything wrong with how Sirius treated him, or Lupin.  And it's not repression, it's reserve and trying not to embarrass anyone in public. <g> Besides, sometimes an awkward grasp of the shoulder can mean a lot more than a hug to over compensate.  

tootles

Heather, who was just watching an Angel ep where everyone hugged everyone else to show their feelings.  definitely never happen in the UK.

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  ----- Original Message ----- 
  From: Julie Smith 
  To: HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com 
  Sent: Monday, February 19, 2001 6:34 AM
  Subject: [HPforGrownups] Lack of human affection in books


  I've found it interesting how little affection/
  emotion/intimacy is in the books. I wonder why this
  is? Is it because the books are British, and let's
  face it, British people are much more stoicle about
  their feelings, or just that many of the characters
  are afraid of intimacy? 
  It's understandable in Harry's case, the Dursley's
  probably touched him as little as possible and I bet
  the first hug he ever got was from Mrs. Weasley in GF.
  I feel so sorry for poor Harry, I want to reach out
  and hug him myself!
  Sirius is sure reserved. He doesn't see Harry, his
  godson, for almost a year and he is all buisness and
  very nochalant when they do get together. Then when
  Harry comes within an inch of his life against
  Voldemort and is in serious pain you think Sirius
  could muster a hug or a few reassuring words, but no.
  Proffesor Lupin is even worse, I think he has serious
  intimacy issues. He was reluctant to get to close to
  Harry (to coach him against the dementors) and then
  when Harry needed emotional sopport after a session,
  the best he could do was make a move to reach out and
  grab his shoulder.
  I just bugs me how cold and guarded the magic world
  seems and I wish they's open up more, especially since
  Harry seems to need it so much.




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