Apology; Admin Announcements

Tue Jan 2 02:57:13 UTC 2001

No: HPFGUIDX 8320

Hi --

Hope everyone had a Happy New Year's Day!  I "un-Christmas'ed" my house
& went on a cleaning spree that left my husband speechless.

NEW CO-MODERATOR NEEDED:

It's that day of New Year's resolutions so it may be appropriate to let
everyone know that I've decided to pull back somewhat from this group.
You're not getting rid of me entirely, but there are several reasons why
I think it might be a good idea for me to take at least a quasi-breather
from heavy day-to-day involvement.

I've developed pregnancy-induced carpal tunnel syndrome, which is
causing me alot of sleeplessness & nighttime pain.  My dr recommended
scaling back on computer time at my apptmt last week.  There are certain
computer tasks that I don't intend or want to shirk (like continuing ASA
and my FAQ obligations ... as well as my professional writing
interests).  So, on reflection, this group seems like a good place to
make a cut-back.

As I mentioned a couple of months back, I can't imagine how I could
sustain the same involvement level once the baby arrives anyway.  I
asked then for some volunteers to help Melanie out with any "list-mom"
duties until I might step back in more fully.  A handful of people did
express an interest in helping but indicated that they could not really
commit to anything too significant time-wise.  Unfortunately, our other
official list-mom (Melanie) appears to me to be AWOL.  So, if anyone is
interested in officially being made a co-moderator, please let me know.
At this point, I don't intend to remove myself as moderator, but there
should be someone other than me that could be available to settle
administrative matters as needed.  The same handful of folks are
hopefully still willing to help out as they can as well.  It might be
nice & ideal to have 2 or 3 co-moderators.

SUBJECT HEADINGS -- Just another friendly reminder to please be sure to
label your subject headings appropriately (changing them as you reply if
needed).  I know *I'll* be relying on them more & more.

APOLOGY --

I think DrMM & Elizabeth were assuredly right about one thing in their
posts last night when they said it looked as though feelings could get
hurt sometime soon.  Mine most definitely were.  As I sit here, I can't
tell you if that's justified or pregnancy-induced hormones gone haywire
or post-holiday blues or some combination thereof.  And, I suspect their
feelings are also hurt.

I think I lashed out too harshly & too personally in my response to the
group last night.  I usually try to avoid interjecting personal feelings
into group admin posts since I am supposed to be the "list-mom."   I do
still stand by my basic point that I don't agree that it's okay for
someone to step in & try to dictate whether on-topic discussions have
run their course or not.  But, it is definitely possible or probable
that we all got our signals a bit crossed & misinterpreted what each
other was saying.

As I mentioned in a separate post this morning, I spent this morning
adding in the relevant message numbers from this latest round of shipper
debates into the Romance FAQ.  In doing so, I at least re-skimmed them
all.  The total posts on the shipper debates (120 out of 963 from 12/19
to 12/31) seem to indicate that as many H/H posts got made (roughly) as
R/H.  So, I think both "camps" have the impression that the other side
is more vocal because they're both being equally vocal ....if that makes
*any* sense.

The other thing I wanted to do was figure out if I had been
overly-vehement, bullying or otherwise obnoxious in my own posts on this
subject.  Having read them again, I still don't really think so.  Most
all the posts on this subject were rather light-hearted or at least
friendly up until yesterday.  I left for my New Year's Eve plans
chuckling because Kathy & I had finally reached a middle ground of
agreement.  <g>

I would like, however, to apologize to DrMM (whose post didn't offend me
*at all* in any case anyway) and to Elizabeth.  I definitely did not
mean to offend you, either in my earlier shipper posts over the last 2
weeks or in my post yesterday.  I am actually a very mild-mannered
Ginny-in-the-canon type person in outward dealings with people, but I
guess my Hermione-on-the-inside personality takes over sometimes.

Penny