Harry and his emotions

[Kimberly]

No: HPFGUIDX 8379

--- In HPforGrownups at egroups.com, 
> Rachelle Elliott wrote:
> "In GoF, Harry stays very strong and does not break down and cry. 
> [snip]The question is: When do you think Harry will actually break 
> down and cry about the situation he has been placed in? 
> 
<snip>

> Voicelady wrote:
> "Very good question.  *I* think that when Harry cries (and I think 
he 
> will), it will be at the very end of the story, once everything is 
> finalized and set to rights.  It will all be over, there will be no 
> more pressure, and the tears will finally come as an emotional 
> release."
> 
"Scott " <harry_potter00 at y...> 
wrote:
> 
> But isn't that human nature?  I mean we all hold back our emotions 
to 
> a certain extent and I find it VERY believable that Harry does too. 
> Then again I also find it hard to buy that Harry has NEVER cried (I 
> can't recall a time when he has- does someone want to correct me?).

Someone already mentioned when Dumbledore told him about his mother he 
cried.  Also, in PoA, when Lupin is teaching him the Patronus charm.  
He passes out and hears his mother AND father this time, and when he 
comes to he's crying, and he pretends to be tying his shoe so Lupin 
won't notice.


<snip>
> 
> I guess a good question would be just how does this tie into Harry?  
> Well, just how does Harry purge his own emotion? On the Quidditch 
> field perhaps. And maybe Hermione lets out her emotions by delving 
> into the quest for academic exellence. So (now I'm afraid I'm 
> digressing into a bit of shipping) just what does Ron do to release 
> his emotion. In two words (and IMO) he doesn't. I think this is why 
> when it comes to Ron I am a no-shipper. I don't think he will be 
able 
> to have a stable relationship (romantic or otherwise)with anyone 
> until he is able to come to terms with himself.  

But Harry *does* cry, and Hermione does too - in fact the word sob is 
used in relation to Hermione at least a couple of times I can think 
of.  As for Ron - I can't think of a time when he cries, but I do 
think he releases his emotions - more than Harry even.  He and 
Hermione both are very good at letting people know how they feel.  
Both of them express anger, joy, confusion, jealousy, love, fear, etc. 
quite openly.  Harry may do this a little less, but I think, 
considering the way he was raised, he does a pretty decent job of 
allowing himself to feel.  

Just tossing out my thoughts on the matter.
kimberly

> 
> In short (or after glancing at my message- not so short) I don't 
> think that Harry has to "have a good cry" to feel released from his 
> axnieties and fears.  I'm not against crying because it CAN be a 
> cleansing experience but there are other ways of dealing with 
> emotion.  Some of you may disagree with this message (as you did 
with 
> the shipper debate) but that's what we're he for. How boring life 
> would be if we all look at things the same way! Our views are 
> coloured by our experiences, and in my experience crying as an 
> immediate reaction in relation to grief has always seemed to be 
> superficial. I guess that death, or any type of hard-hitting loss, 
> hits me in a place that is far past tears. 
> 
> Ok, I've managed to bore everyone with this rather OT message...
> 
> 
> Scott