[HPforGrownups] Re: FAT

[Saitaina]

No: HPFGUIDX 20393

A.  dieting is not bad for Dudley, Dudley needs to loose weight and cutting
his normal Diet down to what he is eating is the quickest way to save his
life.  Besides, it's not Petunia's doing it's the school nurse.

B.  Are the Dursley's bad parents?  or are they just blind to what's in
front of them?  I know MANY a parent who doesn't see that their child is a
junvinal delinquent.  I have seen it time and again when I was trying to
help them  ( I did volunteer work for kids at risk) and the parents refused
or could not see what I was trying to show them.  Now yes, that is a bit of
bad parenting, but not completely horrible compared to what many children
have to go through with they're parents.  And even in Harry's case, they
were afraid, they were doing what they thought was best to get rid of the
magic.  They teqnically did nothing that could get Harry taken away from
them (he was feed, clothed and had a bed) and while it wasn't REALLY the
best thing to do, it was all they knew to do.
----- Original Message -----
From: Meredith Wilson <aviationoutreachcoord at museumofflight.org>
To: <HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Thursday, June 07, 2001 3:42 PM
Subject: RE: [HPforGrownups] Re: FAT


>
> >Someone mentioned that Dudley's upbringing is really the issue with
> >his weight.  I completely agree.  Petunia and Vernon Dursley are, IMO,
> >not very good parents.  As mean as they are to Harry, they spoil
> >Dudley even more.  He has been given no limits, no consequences, and
> >no real guidance of any kind for his behavior.  I think parents who
> >allow their children to eat endlessly are abusive.  It's a form of
> >neglect, because anyone as obese as Dudley is unhealthy and any normal
> >parent should see that.  Insisting that "my child is not like that!"
> >when all evidence points to the contrary is doing an injustice to
> >one's child.
>
> I think this is true for his behaviour, but my parents were excellent
> parents and I certainly had limits, etc, and I'm fat.  I'm not spoiled or
> gluttonous.  And then there's the question about his diet.  His mother is
> making him diet (which is just as abusive as letting a child eat non-stop,
> if you ask me.  Dieting for kids is a sure-fire way to make sure they stay
> fat their entire lives.)  Maybe we'll get a better glimpse in OotP of
where
> JKR was going with that.  It's incredibly clear that the Dursleys are bad
> parents, but there are a zillion ways to show that without making so much
of
> a statement on his weight.
>
> Mer
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