Friendship - Bill - Motto

[Rita Winston]

No: HPFGUIDX 20969

Ebony wrote;
> Friendship is based on common ground... shared interests.
> (QUESTION:  What is the basis of Ron and Hermione's
> friendship?  No, not how it began... we know about the troll.
> No, not just  because they are and that's all there is to it.  ;-)
> I'm really trying to understand other PoVs here.)  As long as
> Ron and Hermione have things in common, they'll remain friends.

Shared interests help a great deal, but I don't believe they are the
most central thing in friendship. There are people who have the same
interests as me whom I hate and strive to avoid. I think friendship
probably starts with enjoying each other's company (which would be why
Christopher Lasch, in the only one of his books that I ever read (it was
LOATHSOME) condemned friendship as being a form of 'narcissism', as
opposed to hanging out with and helping relatives or neighbors whom
detest but hang out with and help out of duty -- talking about
'enjoyment' DOES make it sound like hedonism). And, y'know, my friend is
such a good talker that she makes her boring interests (that I don't
share) sound interesting when she tells me about them, and she feels the
same about me.

So what makes people enjoy each other's company? I suppose that clever,
verbal, bookish people tend to like other clever, verbal, bookish
people, because you can talk to them without having to all the time stop
and explain everything. And people tend to like people who understand
their feelings: it's NICE to have a friend who hears someone insult me
and understands why it is an insult that bothers me and tries in
effective ways to get me to calm down, rather that a friend who can't
understand why I didn't take it as a compliment.

But, y'know, there has to be something about respecting each other's
values...

Rucha wrote:
> In CoS, after Harry rescues Ginny, she moans about going back
> to school and says how she is going to be expelled and says that
> she has looked forward to going to Hogwarts ever since Bill
> started there. I have an impression that Bill started school
> before she was born. Any thoughts?

My thought is that JKR made a *typo* and wrote 'since Bill started at
Hogwarts' when she meant to write 'since Percy started at Hogwarts'.

Amy, what an excellent DADA lesson!

Probably where the Hogwarts motto was first published was as part of the
Hogwarts coat of arms, which is on the frontispiece of the UK editions.



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