[HPforGrownups] Father figures revisited
MeriLeslie26 at aol.com
MeriLeslie26 at aol.com
Sun Oct 14 04:15:17 UTC 2001
No: HPFGUIDX 27619
In a message dated 10/13/2001 9:38:52 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
editor at texas.net writes:
> Here was the one I got flak for, and would like thoughts on the most:
> Snape. Father figure, mostly the negative connotations. The aspect of
> father that you rebel against, the one who sets curfews, who doesn't
> listen, who just doesn't understand, who doesn't even want to, the one
> you come to appreciate only much, much later. Resented, but respected.
> This is the sort of relationship where a bond grows, but when (sometimes
> if) discovered, comes as a surprise, even a shock.
>
> I thought that Harry has nicely covered all the aspects of father in
> these characters, and by separating the different paternal functions
> like that, is free to have stronger associations with these men--he's
> not resenting one man one day, loving that same man the next--the
> reactions to each aspect are separated; they are different men.
My response:
I think that you are absolutely correct. I think, for most of us, thinking
back on our fathers gives us a nice loving squishy feeling. I can only speak
for myself, and as a woman at that, but I absolutely love and respect my
father and can't remember a time when I didn't. Feelings of resentment and
disrespect have been almost erased with the passage of time.
In talking with a friend of mine years ago, he told me that men "find
themselves" through first rebelling against their father figure. Through
this rebelling against their fathers, they end up coming to a deeper
understanding of manhood and fatherhood. This journey also give them a more
fuller appreciation for who their father is/was/will be, and who they are and
who they want to become. I don't think I have the words to express what I
want to, so if there is a man out there who can make a little more sense of
this... Please do.
To bring this back to Harry, it will be interesting to see what happens with
his relationship with Snape. As stated above, Snape represents the father or
part of our father that we don't agree with... those rules, sentiments,
lifestyle, point of view, personality, whatever. In GoF, though, we got a
glimpse of a different Snape. As awful as he is, as beaten in some respects
or jaded, we see a glimpse of courage and honor that we previously could not
conceive. Maybe this is a turning point in Harry's relationship with this
father figure. Will he begin to see him in a different light? As a person
who might deserve some respect? We not always agree with a person to respect
them. I think there is some indication of that in the ending of GoF during
the feast.
I will have to think more on this, though. There are some interesting
implications here.
Leslie
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