SHIP: Why Ron is wrong for Hermione; NOT!! ...Really NOT!!

[Steve <bboy_mn@yahoo.com>]

No: HPFGUIDX 48735

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "Jim Ferer <jferer at y...>"
<jferer at y...> wrote:
> Steve, in spirited and eloquent defense of Ron:
> "So, you think the Ron we see at 11 ... ... ... is the only Ron 
> there will ever be?
> 
> JIM: Ron doesn't need "improvement" ... ... ...
> 
> Steve again:
> "There is no chance that Ron will get to display outstanding heroism
> AGAIN? 
> 
> JIM: We have every reason to think Ron will show his heroism again 
> ... ... ...

> BUT: (Jim continues)
> 
> When we're discussing how these characters might be suited as
> significant others for each other, ... ... ...
> 
> The fourteen/fifteen year old Ron, for all his realized and 
> potential good qualities, has vulnerabilities ... ... ...
> 
> BBOY_MN: "So in conclusion, NO ONE say Ron is 'not good enough' 
> on my watch...
>
> bboy_mn, who thinks Ron too, is hero and champion."
> 
> JIM: No problem there, brother.
> 
> Jim

bboy_mn back again:

"...discussing how ... characters ... suited as significant others..."

Well first, glad to see that you are not actually down on Ron, just
the relationship.

Next, the part you left out, is the part where I answered your
question. Both Harry and Hermione are way too serious; they are both
too far on one end of the scale. A good relationship needs balance.
Frequently people who are in a good relationship will say something to
the effect that this other person completes me, he/she makes me whole.
In a sense, it is related to the concept that the whole is greater
than the sum of it's parts.

Without Ron, both Harry and Hermione would be miserable. He, Ron,
brings the joy to their lives, he brings the fun, he teaches them to
play. HE BRINGS BALANCE. Harry and Hermione together; miserably
serious. Ron and Hermione, (or Ron and Harry, if you have slash
leanings) is a balance. Hermione balances Ron by adding a serious
influence to his life; Ron balances the relationship by adding fun,
joy, 'take a break', 'lighten up', 'let me make you laugh'. Together,
they are greater than the sum of thier parts. Harry and Hermione
together are less than the sum of their parts; they drag each other
down. Ron lifts them both up. They both desperately need Ron in their
lives.

People hint that a driven and successful Hermione (or Harry, if so
inclined) couldn't get along with a not so driven, and presumably not
so successful Ron. But who says Ron is not or will not be successful?
Who says he will not struggle and strive until he is the World
Wizard's Chess Champion? Who says he will not be successful in
business? I say he will; he will be very successful, but in different
way than Hermione. He could even achieve this success with the helpful
influence of Hermione, just like Hermione could learn the joy of
playful living from the influences of Ron. I could easily see an adult
Ron with as much fame and success as either Hermoine or Harry.
Although, fame and success in a different forum that either of them.

So, so far, I have defended Ron and the possibility of a relationship,
but haven't actually said that I think there will be one. What say I?
Yes, but it wouldn't be a permanent boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
My intuitions says it will be a teen boy/girl relationship that will
not develope into a husband/wife/lover relationship. 

I think the purpose of relationships in the story will be the story of
the struggle and conflict that comes with 'coming of age'. I think to
start with, everyone will be infatuated with someone else and ignoring
the person who is infatuated with them. Then eventually, the tide will
turn and people will be with the people that they should reasonably be
with. But, in the end, one day H/H/R will be sitting around having
tea, and Ron will say, 'this was all so much easier, when we were just
friends'; and so will end the struggle of 'coming of age', and life
will go on from there. 

Because of this element of balance or perhaps counterbalance that I
see between H/R, I think a long term or permanent relationship could
occur successfully, but I don't think that is where the story will go.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

bboy_mn

PS: Ron WILL BE the most famous and revered Weasley who ever lived.
They might even build a statue of him in the town square.