Percy- a little odd? and the Wonderful Weasleys

[Steve <bboy_mn@yahoo.com>]

No: HPFGUIDX 48968

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, srsiriusblack at a... wrote:
> In a message dated 29/12/2002 17:26:44 Eastern Standard Time,
alicit at a... writes:
> > But I Love Percy!!! *g*  Actually, I think that Perce really does
> > fit in with his family.  His family is full of Rebels, but they 
> > all rebel together.  
> > ...edited...
> >Alicit
> 
> 
> Snuffles: 
> 
> Hee hee. I don't mean in any way that Percy is bad, ... ... ... 
> 
> But, Percy just isn't like the rest of them... ... ... He does stick 
> out. 
> 
> And, I do so love the Weasleys, too ;)
> 
> -Snuffles

bboy_mn:

We all have roles we play in our family dynamic. Percy plays the role
of 'The Good Boy'.  And he does rebel, when you are in a family of
rebels, you rebel by being a conformist. 

The Good Boy Syndrome-
Percy is determined to be a 'good boy'; to do everything right, to
make his mother proud, to not be a burden on her, to not cause her any
trouble or grief, to show his brothers how a decent person acts.

But at the same time he is desperately seeking approval. He wants
people to notice him, to see that he is being good, that he is doing
everything right. When he doesn't get that approval especially from
his brothers whom he desperately wants to acknowledge him, he
redoubles his efforts and tries even harder to be perfect and to be
acknowledge for doing things good and right. But the harder he tries
to get acknowledgement, the more obnoxious he becomes, and the more
obnoxious he becomes, the more his brothers tease him, and the more
his mother mothers him, and the farther away he drives the very people
whose approval he wants.

Once Percy has his license to Apparate, he constantly reminds people.
He pops down to the kitchen for breakfast and annouces, 'Just
apparated'. But he gets no acknowledgement. So he apparates to the
World Cup and anounces, 'Just apparated Dad', and again gets no
acknowledgement. He becomes Head Boy and walks around for days wearing
his badge with his chest puffed out, pushing it in everybodies face.
All he wants is someone besides his mother to say, 'Nice job, Perce'. 

I think he could take all the teasing he brothers could throw at him,
even take it with a light hearted smile, if they would only say 'nice
job... good going Perce' just one time before the teasing started. 

But the more he wants there approval, the harder he tries, and the
more he drives that approval away. Now the Weasley's are caught in a
form of 'Family Role' quicksand. The whole 'need/deny' relationship
has started to cascade. Usually, people who can't resolve there
destructive Family Roles in some positive way, are people who are in
for a miserable life and a very hard fall. 

Does Percy's perfection and 'Good Boy' role appear to make him happy
in anyway? I think not. Internally, is it reasonable to assume that it
makes him miserable? I think so.

I see big emotional upheaval for Percy in the future. I just hope he
lives through it to become a better man.

Just a few Percy thoughts. 

PS: In my fanfic, Harry has helped Percy realize that the real Percy,
the surpressed hidden Percy is far more powerful and effective than
Perfect Percy could ever be. Death to Perfect Percy. Long live the
real Percy.

bboy_mn