Hermione and Ron (SHIP)
pippin_999
foxmoth at qnet.com
Mon May 13 00:16:51 UTC 2002
No: HPFGUIDX 38691
I argued against the H/H ship:
>>Are you really saying that Ron has more emotional
problems than Harry? Harry, who can't remember what it's like
to be hugged, who has recurring nightmares, whose worst fears
are powerful enough to incapacitate him?>>>>
Penny:
>>>>> No. I think we're talking about two separate issues (at
least) here. You're right Pippin that Harry is emotionally fragile
and may not have the capacity to engage in a romantic
relationship at all (for a long time or even ever) -- with Hermione
or Ginny or Cho or anyone. He has no memories of intimacy and
no good models for successful intimate relationships. <<
Except that he's got his hormones pushing him <g>
Penny:
> >>>But, his emotional fragility is an entirely separate issue
from his insecurities. Harry is insecure, but in a radically
different way than Ron IMO. Harry's insecurity amounts to lack of
confidence; he's never had positive feedback in his life before
Hogwarts. <<<<<
IMO, Harry's missing a whole lot more than positive feedback. I
see what you're saying about Harry as more applicable to Ron.
Ron's the one who just needs some positive feedback, a sense
that what he's doing matters to somebody. IMO, Ron wants to
feel that his friends and family appreciate him. I don't see him as
needing strokes from any one else. He's not miserable because
Harry got chosen Tri-wizard Champion, remember, but because
he thinks Harry didn't take him into his confidence about it.
Whatever jealousy he has of Harry's fame and wealth is minor.
He's seen enough of Malfoy to know that wealth isn't everything,
and that Harry's fame comes with the price of a nice shiny target
on his back.
Harry, OTOH, has been forced to relive his parents' murder,
seen a friend killed in front of him, been raised by adults who
refuse to touch him, learned that his mother died to save him
and above all that there is a very heavy burden of expectation on
him to see that she didn't die in vain. I feel that if Harry connects
with anyone on a more intimate level, it's going to knock the
scabs off some of those wounds. When that happens, he's
going to be less functional than he is now, I think, and a lot more
demanding of whoever he's with. I think those emotional
demands would be pretty hard on someone who is thoroughly
wrapped up in a lifestyle of achievement.
Harry might be satisfied at first to hook up with someone who
didn't overtax his capacity for intimacy, but I think after a while he
would start to wonder what was missing in his life and I think, if
his partner was Hermione, she would feel the same. It's pretty
hard to feel close to someone when you're hiding your feelings
from them.
Penny:
>>>So, he has low self-confidence. He also shuns the spotlight
& his fame. But, his insecurities wouldn't be reinforced with
every success that his girlfriend achieved; quite the opposite it
would seem. It almost appears that Harry would be happiest as
the quieter "background" figure in any romantic relationship.
Any of her successes would simply remove some of the
attention off of him, which he would welcome IMO. <<<<
But is this ever going to happen? I don't think any coming
volumes will be titled "Hermione Granger and ...." Harry will be
the center of attention as long as he remains part of the
wizarding world. IMO, it won't matter if Hermione gets elected
Minister of Magic, discovers the cure for dragonpox, wins the
Order of Merlin and chases a Snitch through London naked on a
broomstick at the age of 75. If H/H happens the Daily Prophet
will still bill her as Harry's partner. Somehow, I don't think she'd
be really happy about that <g>
Pippin
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