Ron (just Ron ... no SHIP); Bickering
serenadust
jmmears at comcast.net
Mon May 13 21:40:29 UTC 2002
No: HPFGUIDX 38715
--- In HPforGrownups at y..., Penny Linsenmayer <pennylin at s...> wrote:
> Hi --
>
> Jo Serenadust said:
I've always
> gotten the impression that she finds it stimulating rather than
> upsetting.>>>>
Penny wrote:
> Well, yes, she may indeed find it stimulating. Then again, it
might take on an entirely different dynamic if she were romantically
involved with Ron. Right now she's just sparring with a good
buddy. This could go either way IMO. <g>
I'm glad we can at least agree on this point :--). So often it
seems that people blame Ron for the bickering as it he were
*inflicting* it on poor, victimized Hermione. She's just as feisty
as he is.
More Penny:
> I said: <<<<<I'm the one who's hugely offended when people try to
say things like "Ron is more important to Harry than Hermione" for
example. I
> *know* I've said this before: if asked to name his 2 best friends,
> it's clear Harry would name Ron and Hermione (and I don't think
he'd
> even agree to prioritize them). If asked to name her 2 best
> friends, I'm sure Hermione would say Harry & Ron. And obviously
Ron
> would name Harry & Hermione. I don't think there are any
> hierarchies of any sort within the Trio.>>>>
> Jo Serenadust responded:
>
> <<<<But, but...Ron *is* more important to Harry when push comes to
> shove. I really don't want to "hugely offend" you but JKR makes it
> clear on two occasions in GoF, that if forced to choose, Harry
would
> prefer Ron to Hermione.
> "Harry liked Hermione very much, but she just wasn't the same as
> Ron. There was much less laughter and a lot more hanging around
in
> the library when Hermione was your best friend" GoF, Chapter 19
>
> This clearly indicates that before their rift, Harry regards Ron
as
> his *best* friend, and Hermione as one of his best friends. In the
> second task, of course, Ron is the one thing Harry will miss
most.>>>>>>
Penny reacted as I feared <g>:
> :::screams:::
>
> No, no, no! :--)
>
> I so don't agree with this assessment. Of course, she's not the
*same* as Ron; she's a girl. And when you're a 14-year old boy
who's not too keen on studying in the first place, you'd naturally
miss your best male buddy who knows all the Quidditch terms & wants
to spend time outdoors instead of cooped up in a library. That
doesn't mean that if he was point-blank asked: are you better
friends with Ron or with Hermione, that'd he say "Ron."
>
> Also, more importantly, *much, much* more importantly: Harry did
in effect answer that question at the bottom of the Lake during the
2nd Task.
>
> ***************
>
>
> He turned back to Hermione, raised the jagged rock and began to
hack at her bindings, too --
>
> At once, several pairs of strong grey hands seized him. Half-a-
dozen mermen were pulling him away from Hermione, shaking their
green-haired heads and laughing.
>
> "You take your own hostage," one of them said to him. "Leave the
others --"
>
> "No way!" said Harry furiously -- but only two large bubbles came
out.
>
> "Your task is to retrieve your own friend ... leave the others...."
>
> "*She's* my friend, too!' Harry yelled, gesturing towards
Hermione, an enormous silver bubble emerging soundlessly from his
lips.
Easy, easy, girl. Deeeep cleansing breaths.... that's right.
Of course, Harry says she's his friend and she is. Being Harry,
he'd never leave her down there just to win the task if he thought
Krum wouldn't make it in time. However, he also saves Cho and
Gabrielle ( who he doesn't know from Adam's housecat) when it seems
that they will not be rescued in time. Harry is a hero; that's what
he does. I never meant to imply that he doesn't value Hermione very
much as his friend. I would venture to say that if Harry were asked
point-blank to choose which one was his better friend, he would of
course, decline to answer. Still, I maintain that from the very
start, Harry has had a natural bond with Ron that is unique. Since
he never in his life had any sort of friend, Ron's reaching out to
him on the train was a real turning point in his life (just as
important IMO, as finding out that he is a wizard). Ron's
generosity in sharing his knowledge of the wizarding world, as well
as his own family is probably the most precious thing in Harry's
life, and he's almost bereft during the time when he and Ron are on
the outs. OTOH, when he and Ron are ticked off at Hermione during
the Firebolt incident in PoA, he probably misses her, but doesn't
seem to be in as much pain about her absence from his life during
that period as he is about the Firebolt being confiscated.
Penny continues:
>
> I will *never, ever, ever* buy the argument that Harry values Ron
more than Hermione unless & until JKR specifically confirms this in
a chat or writes it in a clear & unambiguous way into one of the
next novels. Likewise, I would *never, ever* believe that any of
them would prioritize their friendships within the Trio. The
friendships & such *will* change if an inter-Trio romance develops
or tries to develop & fails; that will certainly change the
dynamic. But, until then, I remain very opposed to the notion that
Hermione is in effect a secondary member of the Trio. In fact, if
you say that Harry & Ron would both put her as their "2nd" best
friend, you're in effect saying that there is no Trio really. There
are 2 best friends who also both count this studious girl with bushy
hair as a good friend, but not a best friend. I can't agree with
that.
>
Well, I really doubt that JKR will ever specifically confirm that
Harry values Ron more than Hermione in either chat or text because I
can't imagine that ever being necessary. I'm sure it would be
excruciating for any member of the trio to "reject" one in favor of
another and I hope I didn't imply that this would happen. (I also
hope that no inter-trio romantic triangle develops -- what a cheap,
cheesy development that would be) It's just that the way I read the
books, Harry and Ron would have been friends, whether Hermione
existed or not. Their relationship was firmly established early in
SS/PS when they still couldn't stand her. I don't see anything to
indicate that either Harry or Ron would have been friends with
Hermione without their prior friendship with each other.
For all intents and purposes, the three of them are "best" friends,
regardless of how they came to be so. It's just that from Harry's
POV, he just plain has more fun with, and more in common with Ron,
and since his life has been completely fun-deprived before meeting
Ron, he tends to enjoy the time spent exclusively with Ron, or with
Ron *and* Hermione, more than he does the time spent with Hermione
alone.
Does that help clarify things? Do you feel any better now?
Didn't think so.
Sorry,
Jo S., calling 'em like she sees them
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