Harry and Cho (why should it?)

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No: HPFGUIDX 75436

Some one wrote, in response to Harry being hurt by Cho:
Why should it hurt him?  He didn't want her - that is pretty clear.  
> He treated her horribly.  He never really liked whoever Cho was as 
a 
> person.  Harry was only attracted to Cho because he thought she was 
> pretty and when she turned out to be a less than perfect battle 
> companion, he ignored her completely.  While they were together, he 
> never tried to even get to know her.  I still have no idea what 
> subjects Cho likes - or even what classes she takes.  I doubt Harry 
> does either.  (Surely a boy who likes a girl would at least find 
that 
> out.)  It was one thing when he liked her from afar - that was 
cute. 
> Afterall, it is difficult to know a girl when you never talk to 
her.  
> But the fact that he's not interested in knowing those things when 
he 
> gets up close is rather disturbing.  As if Cho is best liked when 
she 
> keeps her pretty self quiet.   What right has he to be hurt by 
> anything Cho does after he forgets she exsists?
> 
> Sure Cho behaves bizarely throughout the book and in the end like a 
> a villan from Josie and the Pussy Cats or Jem and the Holograms 
> (both shows I love BTW - but hardly gripping realistic 
television).  
> She'll probably try to boil Hedwig one day, but Harry was hardly a 
> nice to her.  IMHO he treated her like an object to be enjoyed 
while 
> it gave him pleasure and tossed aside when it bored/annoyed him.  
He 
> never cared about her feelings at all.(and yes even an oblivious 
> angry 15 year old can know that when a girl weeps while she's 
kissing 
> you, asking her out again is probably a bad move.)  A gentleman 
would 
> have stayed clear of Cho, but been kind about it.  Instead his 
> actions remind me of the Bloodhound Gang line - "It is always 
better 
> when the stripper cries".  Sick and preposterous - but that song is 
> funny.      
> 
> But perhaps if we are lucky, Hermione might develop some feelings 
for 
> Harry as she seems to worship him so extensively that no boy could 
> possibly live up to the wonder that is 'Harry Potter'. (I really 
> don't think it will happen - she seems clearly destined for Ron - 
> poor soul.  I hope he gets in some good times before Rowling gives 
> him over to Hermione.)
> 
> But then Rowling and I certainly have different opinions on girls 
and 
> boys and dating.  I think 15 year old boys are capable of seeing 
> girls as more than objects even during their most hormonal bouts.  
> Nice boys are both attracted to girls physcially and emotionally - 
> even if they can't conceptualize why or what they feel. Nice boys 
can 
> act like jerks but they don't do so for a 6-8 months - no matter 
how 
> many hormones are surging through their bodies. (whether it was 
just 
> poor writing or a sign that Harry's indeed a jerk is up to every 
> reader...) 
> 
> Hate to say it but Harry was a jerk of a boyfriend.  About the only 
> girl I would wish him on is Hermione.  Remember Cedric Diggory 
> indeed!  I'll bet Cedric knew what Cho's favourite subject was... 
and 
> whole host of things about her that he took to his grave.
> 
> "feetmadeofclay"

I think this is a bit harsh on Harry.  He didn't ignore her and treat 
her badly for 6/8 months - he didn't really get to ahve a proper 
conversation with until their date, because before that it was either 
within the DA, or in the owlery, interrupted by Filch.  and on the 
date he was really nervous and talked about thing they had in common 
to keep the conversatino going, like quidditch and Umbridge and 
things.  And I don't think it says he was purposefully ingoring her 
or dissing her after the date - he just didn't know how to deal with 
the whole Cedric thing, which would be a really awkward subject for 
anyone -  he was happy when she believed the story in the Quibler - 
it just went all wrong when her friend nearly got them all expelled - 
he was really angry about that and just had a go at her,  which 
wasn't really fair but probably ar easonable reaction.  

With all the other complications in his life he was prboably hoping 
for a girlfriend he could get to know - without her bringing up her 
dead ex-boyfriend who he saw being murdered anytime anything went a 
bit quiet or wrong between them.  

JKR did have ARthur Weasley say in Book 4 (as regards the Veela) 
that  boys shouldn't go for looks alone - and maybe Harry was a bit 
guilty of that with Cho - I see somethign happening with him and 
Luna, who isn't described as being exactly pretty...

I just don't think Harry was that much of a jerk.