[HPforGrownups] Re: SHIP: kiss on cheek before quidditch match, anything?

[Rebecca Stephens]

No: HPFGUIDX 77213


--- greatelderone <greatelderone at yahoo.com> wrote:

> Possibly because Ron has pretty much been
> overshadowed by either his 
> friends or brothers for most of his life. If
> Hermione becomes 
> Minister of Magic it won't do any wonders for his
> self-esteem. 

His self-esteem is already improving.  And if he
wanted to be top-of-the heap he'd have hung out with
Neville.  I do not believe that Ron has to have a wife
who is "less" than him.  Yes, he wants some attention
and praise sometimes; who doesn't?  But have we ever
seen him have a problem with Hermione being a better
student?  (excepting PS before they were friends).  He
gets annoyed at her know-it-all attitude sometimes,
but sometimes she deserves it.  There are definitely
times when she's just showing off and needs to be
called on it.

> 
> > Why can't Hermione
> > have a husband that is not as powerful, or famous?
> 
> 
> The question is can Ron have a wife that continues
> to overshadow him 
> and who would have more concern for the welfare of
> the wizard world 
> than for her husband?

WHOA!  I say he can.  If she is reasonable.  But no
one should have a spouse on the back-burner and expect
that spouse to make all the concessions so that he/she
can obtain greatness.  That makes for a poor marriage.

 
> > Happness has very
> > little to do with either of those things. 
> Happness comes from doing
> > what is enjoyable to oneself.  Happness rarely has
> anything to do 
> with
> > a balance of equals, it has more to do with a
> balance of *respect* 
> of
> > one another.
> 
> And how are you going to create a balance of respect
> when the wife is 
> more powerful politically and magically than her
> husband?
> 
> 

Are you saying that she wouldn't respect someone who
had less power?  That makes no sense.  

Besides, who if she's MOM, then no one would have
equal power politically, and she couldn't be married
to anyone.  

Who says power has to be equal for respect to be
equal?

When you make this aruguement I think of Star Wars
(before the god-awful NJO books).  Leia is Chief of
State and learning in the force and Han has no job and
takes care of the kids often.  Oh, and they both save
the galaxy occasionally.  And yes, there are rough
spots, but they work it out.  Works for me.

I don't see this rampant inequity in Hermione and Ron
that you do.  I think they're pretty equal.  She's
more gifted academically, but that's it.  Big deal.

And, for the record, I don't think she'll be MOM. 
Doesn't seem like a job she'd like it, and I don't
think it'd suit her(and I think a muggle-born would
have difficulty obtaining the office, no matter how
deserved it was).  She doesn't have the temprament. 
She too self-righteous and unwilling to compromise. 
No, the MOM shoudn't give in on every little thing. 
But they need to be able to listen, and that skill is
serverely lacking in Hermione.  Unless that changes,
she wouldn't do well.  Because she's going to do
things her way without ever listening to anyone else's
way.  And even if her way isn't working, she won't
change it.  And that's a dangerous trait in someone
with so much power.


Rebecca

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