[HPforGrownups] Re: Stereotyping

[Jesta Hijinx]

No: HPFGUIDX 86987

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>--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "jwcpgh" <jwcpgh at y...> wrote:
> > Based on the experiences I've had, the women I know and what I've
> > read, I believe that women are indeed insecure in their choices.
So yeah, I think women are constantly re-
>evaluating
> > their choices and fearing that they made bad ones.  We have yet to
> > affirm as a culture that *both* working outside the home and
>staying
> > home are good, valid, valuable choices.  Some of the recent
> > discussions here on the list have been these anxieties spilling
> > over, I think.
> >
> >
>
[snip]
>Molly, your excellent explanation of why we women are sometimes a WEE
>bit hypervigilant when it comes to looking for the female perspective
>in children's stories, and your take on feminism.
>
[much good stuff snipped]

I just wanted to say that I don't know that women are insecure in their 
choices because they re-evaluate them - though some are - as much as 
hyperaware that many elements may change and that sometimes choices need to 
be changed.  For example, a woman might want to be at work full-time, 
gung-ho on a career and suffer the normal anxieties of leaving kids at 
day-care to go to work...then discover a new skill or opportunity that comes 
along that may permit her to work from home, at least part of the week, and 
take advantage of that.  It's not that she's hunting for the bon-bons (and I 
also have *never* known an "eat bon bons" kind of stay-at-home mom - I know 
stay at home moms who run horse boarding stables on their property for extra 
income, care for foster kids as well as their own, act as the neighborhood 
"safe house" for kids who need a place to run if they feel threatened coming 
home from school...and most are constantly in motion doing all of the day to 
day things that are time and energy-consuming but help keep house, home, 
health and safety together.  It can be a full time job just dashing around 
town trying to get the best buys and bargains on things to live frugally.

Felinia

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