SHIP: That Darned Kiss--The Problem With Reading R/H in GoF

[blauemeanies <cmsore@wm.edu>]

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Penny wrote: 
> That's the other thing I don't get about the R/H position.  JKR had 
an unhappy marriage with lots of "sparks" and arguments and tension.  
It ended badly.  I'm not so sure that "tension and sparks" is really 
her cup of tea.  But, more importantly, since she's said that she 
wants to realistically depict these kids and their confrontation 
with "real" evil (not sugar-coated) and have them age believably, do 
you really think she'd want to send a message that teenage romance 
works out to be happily ever-after?  In real life, it just 
doesn't.    


Penny, this would be a valid theory if we knew why JKRs first 
marriage failed, but I personally haven't seen anything anywhere 
positively attributing it to the sources you mentioned there.  Hey, 
from what I have seen it could as easily be that he ignored her and 
she took his silence for agreement when it was really pent up 
annoyance and it fell apart.  And I somehow doubt that there has been 
anyone in any chat asking her- "So, Joanne, why did your first 
marriage fail?"  If there was, I'd personally slap them because I 
think it is something we have no right to know.  And, the one 
positive relationship we see (Molly/Arthur) does have such sparks, so 
even if she was burned in a spark and tension filled romance it has 
not led her to believe such a romance is neccessarily always 
unsuccessful.  

As to the tean romance question, yes many fail but not all do.  If 
she can show a teen romance that has a lot of the things that keep an 
adult romance together, then I don't think we should write it off 
because of their age.  It does happen.  Not all the time, or to 
everyone, but it does happen.  And R/Hr have a type of intimacy that 
makes them more likely to sustain than many teen prom fantasy 
relationships.  Statistically speaking, yes most fail, but 
statistically speaking most people aren't chased by megolomaniacal 
dark lords either.

"blauemeanies"