Why did Lily marry James ? / Snapes other worst memory

[rowena_grunnionffitch]

No: HPFGUIDX 66643

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "corinthum" <kkearney at s...> 
wrote:
> davydarmstrong wrote:

> I also don't see the "James grew up" scenario as plausible.  Yes, it
> is very possible that James did mature, lose his arrogance, and 
become
> a very likeable guy in the span of two years. 

  Let us not forget we are talking about a man who sacrificed his 
life in an attempt to buy time for his wife and infant son to escape 
Voldemort - not to mention having the guts to join the OotP in what 
must have been the Order's darkest days. Like many people James had a 
mixture of admirable and not so admirable characteristics. In his 
case the admirable ones won out. Look at his friends; Sirius and 
Lupin are both good men, and they remember James with great 
affection. Cut the guy some slack already.

 But as of the end of
> their fifth year, Lily despised James.  She copnsidered him on the
> same level as Mudblood-slinging-Snape.  She said she would rather 
date
> the giant squid than James.  

   To quote Sirius, of course she didn't 'hate' James. Any more than 
Princess Leia hated Han Solo, (who also acted like a major jerk on 
occasion). Haven't you ever seen a Tracy/Hepburn movie? The feisty 
heroine *always* acts like she hates the brash hero because she 
resents his cynicism and lack of conventional ethics, but most of all 
for the emotional confusion he creates in her, (and vice versa of 
course). 

   Poor Lily, attracted to a jerk who insists on showing off his 
jerkiness in a particularly objectionable way in front of 
*everybody*. What's the matter with this guy? How could she ever have 
found him appealing? Naturally she's furious and hostile.

   I'm sure Hermione would agree with my analysis 100% ;)